My first experience with prostate play was a bit of a letdown but finished with some pleasure.
To start, I showered, cleaned out my rectum (which was a bit involved, not sure I will bother next time), another light shower, and then found some nice audio porn. I lubed up the Aneros Progasm and laid on my side, pulling one leg up and keeping one straight as I inserted it. The Progasm went in fairly easily and comfortably. I found the perineum stimulating ball a bit distracting at first.
I laid on my back, breathed slowly and deeply and listened to some nice audio porn. I have to say, I wasn’t feeling anything. I tried a series of different positions: laying on my stomach, sitting up, doggie style, on my side, on my back – the sensations were all the same – lame. The whole while I was trying positions I did some flexing of my PC muscle, played with my perineum a bit, and was able to get my anal muscles to do some rapid movements (volunatrily), but no intense pleasureful feelings.
I started to wonder if I had inserted the Progasm upside down, thinking that that maybe it wasn’t rubbing against my prostate. I pretty easily turned the Progasm around while inside me and it felt better, somewhat pleasurable, but it was a fleeting feeling. I then tried rocking it around a little by thrusting my hips and then tugging slightly on it with my hand – still didn’t feel much.
After about an hour I thought maybe I had made the error of having not taken the time to edge a bit before my prostate play. I wasn’t hard at all, so I decided to watch some porn, which got me hard and excited, but still no sensations from my new anal toy.
I started using the Hot Octopus vibrator on my penis and that got me close, so I stopped and focused on my prostate – still nothing. I pulled it out, put it back in, nothing.
So, I gave up, I put a new vibrating anal toy in my ass, vibrated by dick, watched porn, and had an amazing orgasm.
So, I guess I cheated.
Not sure where this leaves me now.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/6r5muw/overview_of_my_first_progasm_experience_meh/
Update: got all excited after spending some time in the adult subs of reddit and decided to give it another try. Inserted the Progasm and tried to clench and release, felt good, but nothing amazing. It does feel good having it in there, I just can’t imagine having an orgasm.
I got a bit bored after about twenty minutes and switched out for the anal vibrator again. I had a wonderful time, felt really nice, still not sure how I’m going to climax. Sadly, the battery died so I went back to the Progasm (I think I’m pretty good at getting it in and out now). Felt nice being filled up with it, but the word I would use again is “lame” (no criticism meant for those who love and really enjoy their prostate massagers).
I ended my session by lubing my dick up and playing with it while I bucked around on the Progasm. Have the massager inside me definitely enhanced my penis orgasms.
Ok, so let me say this: The idea that a guy can put an Aneros in and suddenly feel like God himself is sending waves of angel fingers to caress your prostate into a mind blowing orgasm where you see colors in the infrared spectrum is utterly horseshit. If you had an amazing experience the first time in, you are EXTREMELY lucky and a rare, not normal case.
My first time with my Progasm was after years of anal play already under me belt. Felt “meh” being in there, I edged like crazy, felt small glimmers of pleasure but nothing great. Came buckets, but I had been edging all weekend at the time. The point is that it wasn’t great. It was just… Meh.
But I stuck with it. It’s a rewiring process, not a rewiring switch that just clicks. I can put on Progasm in now and, if the mood is right, I instantly feel p-waves and spasm involuntarily. That’s after months of use, and I consider myself lucky its only taken that long.
You have to relearn what an orgasm is, and you have to relearn how to get there. That’s not done in one session. Or two. Or twenty. It’s highly a mental game. But when you get there, it’s pleasure in its purest form. And it’s made every other sexual act more pleasurable through the learning process.
First: stop trying to make things happen. That’s the fastest way to make things not happen. I never urposely clench or flex. I lay on my side (started on my back, side is way better) and relax. I try to imagine my butt hole relaxing, my pelvic floor relaxing, like I’m trying to piss without pushing. Just relax.
Secondly, if you get pleasure, don’t chase it. Enjoy it. Don’t try harder to get more of it. Just enjoy it as it dances to and away from you. It’s like feeding a squirrel by hand. If he nibbles the first nut in the line to your hand, you don’t bull rush it whipping nuts at it. You wait patiently, enjoying every little step closer it takes. It’ll retreat. It’ll come back closer. And you will build an understanding. Guys traditionally think that harder and faster is better. Stop thinking like a guy and think like a woman: consistency. Steady rhythm. These will win the day. Not pushing speeds or timing.
Finally breathe. Breathe steady. Slowly. From the stomach, not the chest. Breathe even, breathe deeply. Through the mouth, ideally. And either look at nothing, or close your eyes and focus on the feelings you are having, not what you expect to have. Not what you want to have. If you are experiencing a small amount of pleasure, thank it for its company and sit with it for a while. Don’t bemoan how it’s not enough for you. Don’t expect the next move, just enjoy the current moment.
And don’t read guides or ‘how to’s. They full your head up with rules and techniques. Just three things: breathe. Relax. Enjoy.
I genuinely hope this helps. The Aneros is the most powerful sexual experience in terms of raw pleasure I have ever felt. It’s been an immense sexual awakening for me. The biggest sexual influence for me in my life, and I say that with zero exaggeration. I firmly believe men of all walks can benefit from this type of pleasure and self awakening (at the risk of sounding too spiritual). I hope you succeed.
Consider getting the Aneros Vice. Some people on the boards suggest to stay away from vibrators and only focus on the toy, which is fine but if you like the vibration the Vice is the best of both worlds.
I started with the Vice and would begin a session with the vibrator off then work through the settings. At this point I know that I prefer it on so don’t even bother with the vibrator off.
Also different aneroses have different dimensions. Maybe that model is just not a good match for you.