“After All, It’s Just For Prostate Therapy!”

Background
I am only at Day 2 of SR but at Day 80 of NoFap ® PMO. Last night, before retiring for bed, I had a strong urge to “sleep” in one of my ‘chastity cups’. So I selected my XO ProCup and nestled-in; so relaxing and comforting! During the night, as I expected, I felt the distinct pressure of the NPT erections against the cup. But I remained in chastity and slept comfortably through the night.

Earlier this morning, I awoke and upon visiting the lavatory, I had a symptom or two of BPH: start & stop stream and a somewhat weak stream. I think I ‘visited’ about three times quickly in succession. I checked and it had been 5 days since my last ‘therapeutic’ prostate massage session, so I knew it was time.

Session
I selected my HelixTrident for this session and lubed-up with SSG. I went to lie-down on my side and just relax. I knew the Helix was contacting my prostate right from the start and I began to experience some involuntary contractions. I did a couple of strong anal/PC contractions and could definitely feel its effect. At one point, my entire body reacted with a strong, explosive contraction. I honestly didn’t feel any erections building, but I knew that this ‘therapy’ was going to be effective.

“No Aneros? … No Problem!”

Introduction
Yes, I’m referring to Aless. That concept whereby a guy gets all the pleasure of a prostate massage, but without the massager! How is this possible? Let me explain…..

Technique
There is really not much to learn here. All that is required (IMO) is a willingness to activate and stimulate the prostate by some simple anal/PC contractions (also known as kegels). It takes just a little bit of practice but once learned, the technique is almost automatic. The intervals of those contractions can be far apart or closely spaced. The idea here is to begin to feel it just a little in the prostate. The rest will be accomplished by your body’s own response. The important thing (I find) is not to stop too quickly! When I start to feel that unmistakable “flutter down-under” I know I am on the right path!

Since I wear ‘chastity cups’ regularly, I find that while wearing one is the perfect opportunity to practice my kegels. Especially while sitting down at a computer, It doesn’t take any preparation and I can start and stop at any time.

One thing that can be a little problematic is when I start to do some contractions in a public place. I have to be careful that I don’t get my prostate stimulated too much. Otherwise, I may react with a slight moan due to a euphoric, orgasmic feeling! But usually, I have enough self-control to the point that only I know what is going-on down there!

I’ve been trying for a few years and I’m still hardly getting any pleasure out of it.

Technically it would be more accurate to say it’s off and on for a few years. I tend to give up on it for a while or not be able to for a long time for one reason or another.

I’m using the “do nothing” or the “try not to orgasm” approach. Try not to orgasm is a nice one because then if pleasure stops I’m less likely to get frustrated. I’ve tried intentionally moving the aneros inside me but it never works more than a tiny bit. Any attempt to directly control the movement of the aneros or the feeling of pleasure itself leaves me worse off than I started. Fine. I just won’t do that.

I’m still at the stage where the sensations are mild and never last more than a few seconds. A couple times I’ve gotten better than that but I haven’t gotten back there in about a year. As soon as I want it to feel better than it does in the moment, all pleasure stops, which is extremely frustrating.

I’m not focusing entirely on the possibility of the super O. I’ll be satisfied once I get to the point where it feels better than regular masturbation. I can’t explain why but I have a feeling that once I get to that point I’ll advance pretty quickly. Even if it doesn’t, I can be patient about how good it feels as long as it satisfies my need for it. I don’t think I’ll be bored once I get the fundamentals down.

What do you think about during a session?

I’ve been using the Progasm for a while and getting some pleasurable sensations, but I find that it’s kind of difficult to stay “aroused” and in the mood for an extended period of time, especially if the session drags on for a while.

I’m just wondering what other people think about during an Aneros session… do you think about something erotic? Do you imagine you’re in the act? Or do you treat it more like a massage and just concentrate on the pleasurable sensations?

As a gay man, it’s always tempting to think about anal sex, but there’s only so long I can keep myself “turned on” for if that makes sense…

My experience so far…

So, I jumped on the prostate bandwagon a few months ago and started with the Helix Syn. Had a few good sessions with it but wasn’t getting anywhere close to what I was reading about. Turns out…I was too impatient.

I ordered the Helix Trident Syn last week and I have had a few sessions with it. I like it SO much better than the Syn. That extra strength in the P-tab really helps.

The other night I was having a session and I had my first hands-free ejaculation. Not a Super-O or even a dry orgasm, but hands-free nonetheless. That was a pretty big step. I had the Trident in and I had used extra lube. I was lying on my back with my knees bent and my feet flat on the bed. I had my dick tucked between my legs and my legs were squeezed closed. This goes against the “relax and it will come to you” but it felt so good.

I also had quite a few large muscle shakes. The feelings grew and grew and then I came. It was pretty intense but not my ultimate goal. Still, I had managed to do something I’d never done before so that was a good session.

Today, I put on my chastity cage and sat around doing some work. I started feeling horny and just paid attention to my prostate. I have found that I can get some great feelings without the Aneros if I concentrate enough so I tried doing that.

“It Just Feels Better With A Cup!”

[Thanks to @BigGlansDC for his continuing support of wearing cups in bed and during Aneros sessions]

Intro
Went to sleep wearing only PJs and didn’t even think about the NPTs that would be coming during the night. Sure enough, I awoke about 3 AM with an arousing erection and firm balls. I am currently in Day 8 of semen retention and I have felt that “boost” in T-level for sure! I am not ready to ejaculate yet. What to do?

Solution
I quickly decided to put-on my Mueller cup because of the way it feels. And once I did, that ‘comfortable’ feeling just got me thinking…

Forget Chastity
What I realized is that, throwing-out all I know about male chastity, putting-on that cup just felt better! Need more synonyms? How about improved, exceptional, superior, desirable, more useful? Take everything I have written about male chastity and just put-it-aside for now. Concentrate on the comfort and the relief that the cup provides. It just ‘feels better’!

Scenarios
Once back in bed and feeling more comfort from the cup, I began to think about other ways that guys feel ‘better’ while wearing their cups. And a few examples quickly came to mind….
• Baseball players wear their cups for sure to protect their ‘equipment’ from errant balls and field-play. No fan would question their choice of protection; the ‘bulge’ in their pants attests to their commitment.
• Some male police officers wear bulletproof cups (groin guards for females) particularly for SWAT teams. I don’t think anyone would deny a police officer’s choice to wear a bulletproof vest, so why not groin protection while on duty?
• Male and female wrestlers and kick-boxers routinely wear groin guards to protect their vital organs during matches. Fans would expect no less.
• Can you imagine an ice-hockey player not wearing a cup? I can’t either.

Rumel`s Ruminations – Part IV

To Whom It May Interest,

Over the last few years I’ve posted numerous comments in other peoples threads and authored a few threads of my own. In hopes it would aid in the understanding of the Aneros Journey I’ve decided to consolidate some of the more salient posts of my thoughts here.

From Aneros and an ‘Optimal’ mind state?
Hi guys,
I was recently asked by a member [quote]…about how to get into the right state of mind to encourage a prostate orgasm to happen…[/quote]That’s a good question which deserves some thoughtful responses from our members. First off, let’s dispense with the word “right” and it’s implied antonym “wrong”, the semantics of which imply too much moral judgment attached to their use. I prefer to use the term “optimal” in lieu of “right”. Second, we need to identify what constitutes this “optimal” state of mind. I think I have a pretty good idea about this but it is just my opinion. Third, we need to identify those practices which will help us get into that “optimal” state of mind. Some of this was alluded to in the thread [U][URL=”https://www.aneros.com/community/forum/general-discussion/7967-identifying-facilitators-to-progress”]Identifying Facilitators to Progress[/URL][/U] so this post could be considered an addendum to that thread. This also ties into [USER=”7188″]rook[/USER] ‘s thread [U][URL=”https://www.aneros.com/community/forum/general-discussion/5228-whole-body-whole-mind-the-mental-side”]Whole Body/Whole Mind – the mental side[/URL][/U] & [USER=”7244″]SteelColdiron[/USER] ‘s thread [U][URL=”https://www.aneros.com/community/forum/general-discussion/6775-aneros-the-essential-mind-state”]Aneros: The Essential Mind State[/URL][/U]

Experiments & Hypotheses

Turned the heat up higher than usual, kept the bedroom nice and warm so that I wouldn’t have to worry about clothes, covers, or chills. Did some yoga breathing, then added gentle flexing and relaxing of anal muscles with them. No precum yet, but my body was relaxed and ready – been looking forward to this since the last session.

Used the same amount of lube and massaged some in, then put a layer on the device. My body was eager to take it in; it pulled it in to the first bulb with little resistance. With some gentle muscle movements, eventually it slid in just on the cusp of the last bulb, which stayed half inside and half outside of my outer sphincter. Started out on my back again, with legs bent, and small movements and contractions felt good. Squatted for a while again, which had a similar effect as last time, kind of encouraging my anus, inner sphincter, and rectum to wake up. Tried lying with my legs up at a right angle, resting on a cushion (a forum user really likes this position with the Peridise), but after a while of trying it out, it really wasn’t doing much for me.

Aless and My Sexual Thermocouple

Thermocouple: a device for measuring temperature, consisting of a length of wire of different metals connected at two points terminating in a bulbous tip, the voltage being developed in the junction will be in proportion to the temperature difference.

By Spring of 2007 my Aneros journey made me feel like a 17th Century Explorer from Spain or Italy of Portugal only instead of the New World I was seeking the New Orgasm. I was in control of my ship, its equipment and the humanity that drove it and most importantly I had confidence in myself. I alsowas aware I was headed somewhere but I wasn’t totally sure what was out there.

I was having a 90% success rate with Super O’s each session. I knew how to make sure I had them but I wasn’t always consistent in the results. Some sessions were deep and intense producing toe curling agonizing ecstasy while other were just meager and ok. Each one was as different as a finger print. I learned that Super O’s were very nuanced and that depending on how you guided them, they could tumble you like a wave on the shore and abandon you or they could caress your brain and transport you to nirvana. I learned that I could get good advice from others on what worked for them but that experimentation of what worked in my own body was essential, even if it went against what others did. I also learned from Senior members here about A Lesses.

Session 3

I had my second Aneros session this morning. Let me preface my recounting of it with a few admissions of guilt:
– It was a very long session. I went against the advice of more experienced users who recommended sticking closer to 30 minutes. All told, I had my Aneros in for 3.5 hours.
– It was not actually my second time using the Aneros. I slipped it in one other time between this session and the first as a way of increasing arousal during sex with my spouse. But I don’t really count that as a “session” because I wasn’t focused on the specific sensations the Aneros may have been generating. I wasn’t practicing Aneros.
– Which leads to my third and final confession: After having done that, I was advised by someone to keep Aneros sessions and sex with someone else (or masturbation) separate until I had more experience. I think this advice makes sense and I will follow it in the future, but I didn’t follow it this morning.

They say confession is good for the soul. I don’t know about that, really, but I do know that I want this blog to be as truthful and accurate as possible. Maybe others will learn from my experiences. I hope that I will also learn, both by putting the experiences into words, which forces me to think more deeply about them, and by looking back at the mistakes and successes I have along the way. So yes, at the risk of shame and public recrimination, I will freely admit when I do something that may be unwise or counterproductive.