“Who Are We? Just Play The Game!”

[This blog was inspired by an Aneros member]

Introduction
While listening to some erotic chillout this morning, I began to dwell on this topic. And the more I thought about it, it made perfect sense to me. So I’d like to share it…..

We as men share a unique role in this world. We are the sex who (for lack of better words) penetrates, thrusts and ejaculates. It really it that simple! But along the way, we have developed many other ways, other ‘tools’ if you will, to cultivate and ‘grow’ our manhood, our ‘maleness’, our sexuality. Among these are ways well-known to Aneros members such as myself. I am referring to the practices of semen retention (SR), NoFap ® and Aneros prostate massage. Of course, there are others and one which I endorse and promote is the use of ‘chastity cups’.

Now what do all of these have in common? It really is quite simple, IMO. All of these activities are designed to enhance our sexual pleasure, not only for ourselves but in the general scheme of things, our male ‘vision’ of the world. (Our female counterparts share their own ‘vision’ that is (thank goodness!) completely different from our own). Together, we can make a new world (literally).

How To Play The Game
As I continued to meditate, it became clear to me that all of these sexual activities are entirely and always under our direct control. Here are some examples….

subtleties of prostate stimulation

New tools teaching me the intricacies and subtleties.

In my last blog post I mentioned getting some new pleasure tools. I have been having lots of fun with the Njoy large plug. this thing just sits on my prostate giving me the pressure I require without interaction since I’m a do nothing guy (but that is now changing because of these new tools) inducing some wonderful feeling orgasms. These ‘o’s are different but also the same from the ones I experienced from using an aneros product. I also love the fact that I can join in the am and go about my day feeling a constant stimulation of my anal canal and lower prostate area, gets me and keeps me aroused almost the entire time I’m moving.

I think the biggest take back is since these new tools are so unforgiving on the body if used to aggressively, I am really starting to become more mindful of the subtlety of prostate massage. When using any of my lovers and doing clenching (kegels or some type of muscular interaction) I would get overzealous without even knowing it thus chasing away the pleasure I was seeking because I had no feed back if you will, I couldn’t feel it moving inside me until an orgasm had started. Using the new tools force me to pay more attention to what and when I actively do something since I got overzealous one time using the Pfun and became fairly sore. The large seems to return a light feed back to me letting me learn the light touch required.

Sweet, timeless memories about jocks and cups (inspired by goldenboy)

Hi guys,

Many of who have read my Aneros blog over the years have heard my stories about jocks and cups dating from my puberty and the glory days of adolescence up to my old age. This fascination represents a lifetime of experience and gives me even now the thrill of wearing these quintessentially male items which men and boys wear for athletics and even daily, leisurely wear.

I was eleven or twelve when I encountered my dad’s jockstrap for the first time. Mom had laundered in February or March 1962 and hanged it on a hanger to dry above the bathtub at home. Dad was going to wear it under his Little League navy blue umpire uniform pants when Little League began in late April or May that year. I decided to try it on when it was dry. I was baffled in how to wear it correctly, but I figured its mesh pouch was to contain my privates, but I was mystified that its leg straps gave that “bare ass” feel, so unlike the briefs I wore as my own underwear. However the “bare ass” feel of a jockstrap provides needed ventilation to a guy’s sweaty buttocks on the athletic field. This also applies to a guy wearing a cup jock.

“The Bigger Picture”

{Note: Adult sexual content expressed in this blog. Readers be advised.}

Background
Lying in bed early this morning. I had slept part of the night in my Mueller cup; it was sooooo relaxing I hardly felt that I had it on! At one point, I decided to take it off and just sleep in my PJs. I had some vivid (non-sexual) dreams which I remember. During the night, I began to dwell on this concept and will relate it as I remember. (PS I am currently in Day 7 of SR; I have not had an Aneros session in a few days).

Meditation
I began to think not about the obvious differences between us males and females, but rather our respective sexual functions . And the distinction was rather clear in my mind. We males are the “actors” (the aggressors, the dominant ones) in sex. It is up to us to deposit our sperm into the female. The females do not have this function, other than to regulate their “fertile” days if they want to conceive. It is entirely up to us to accomplish our “mission”.

Then, as I dwelt on this some more, it became clear that us males need to “ensure” that we are “ready and able” to deposit our semen (that is, to ejaculate) at any time. Further, it became clear that anything we can do to “stimulate” our functioning sexual apparatus is beneficial. That would include massaging our prostates (through Aneros), edging, and even masturbation. Watching porn would certainly not be out of the question. This is especially true for guys that don’t have sex or have it very infrequently (such as myself).

Rumel`s Ruminations – Part IV

To Whom It May Interest,

Over the last few years I’ve posted numerous comments in other peoples threads and authored a few threads of my own. In hopes it would aid in the understanding of the Aneros Journey I’ve decided to consolidate some of the more salient posts of my thoughts here.

From Aneros and an ‘Optimal’ mind state?
Hi guys,
I was recently asked by a member [quote]…about how to get into the right state of mind to encourage a prostate orgasm to happen…[/quote]That’s a good question which deserves some thoughtful responses from our members. First off, let’s dispense with the word “right” and it’s implied antonym “wrong”, the semantics of which imply too much moral judgment attached to their use. I prefer to use the term “optimal” in lieu of “right”. Second, we need to identify what constitutes this “optimal” state of mind. I think I have a pretty good idea about this but it is just my opinion. Third, we need to identify those practices which will help us get into that “optimal” state of mind. Some of this was alluded to in the thread [U][URL=”https://www.aneros.com/community/forum/general-discussion/7967-identifying-facilitators-to-progress”]Identifying Facilitators to Progress[/URL][/U] so this post could be considered an addendum to that thread. This also ties into [USER=”7188″]rook[/USER] ‘s thread [U][URL=”https://www.aneros.com/community/forum/general-discussion/5228-whole-body-whole-mind-the-mental-side”]Whole Body/Whole Mind – the mental side[/URL][/U] & [USER=”7244″]SteelColdiron[/USER] ‘s thread [U][URL=”https://www.aneros.com/community/forum/general-discussion/6775-aneros-the-essential-mind-state”]Aneros: The Essential Mind State[/URL][/U]

“Sexual Regularity”

Introduction
Having slept in my Mueller Flex Shield cup overnight and now in a new Day 3 of SR, I awoke at about 1 AM. I wanted to retreat down to the comfort of my sofa and I selected a nice, soothing track for Solfeggio 639 Hz meditation: “It enables creation of harmonious community and harmonious interpersonal relationships”.

Almost as soon as I starting listening and meditating, I began to make an important connection. Let me explain…..

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{Note: this connection may seem somewhat bizarre and absurd at first, but please hear me out!..}

I have bouts of constipation from time to time and thus was the case a couple days ago. Having been irregular for a couple of days, I knew that I needed some help. I needed to take a laxative. I waited up until bedtime without success, then made the decision to take it. I did and then retired for the night. After about 4 hours, I felt it starting to work and was relieved that 10 hours later, when I awoke, I was “regular” again!

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Now, what does this have to do with the meditation, you may ask? Well, it occurred to me that our sexual selves operate, in fact, with regularity. Let me give some examples….

Our NPTs which almost all of us men experience at night, occur with great regularity. If they did not, something would be wrong with our sexual “plumbing”. I anticipate these and sometimes am prepared by wearing a “chastity cup” to negate the stimulating effects of the ensuing erections.

“Helix Trident – My New-Found Friend!”

Background
My! What a session this morning with the Helix Trident! But I need to back-up first to the beginning….

I have been sleeping without wearing a “chastity cup” for the past week. Is it helping me to sleep better? Perhaps, but I am still awakened by some extremely-strong night-time erections (NPTs). One this morning was extremely arousing. I decided to retreat to my comfortable sofa and just chill with some relaxing music for a while. I was not wearing anything but PJs. After a while, I began to meditate and fantasize. And my erection switched “on” as if by magic! What caused the “switch” to be thrown? I believe it was when I began to fantasize about having a prostate procedure this morning in the hospital. When I contemplated this upcoming activity, my cock sprung into action! I could not stop another extremely hard erection from developing! And before long, I “knew” the rest of the fantasy was in store for me! Here it is…..

Fantasy
I am being prepared for a “procedure” on my prostate this morning and the prep will consist of two “phases”. The first is that I need to refrain from any kind of masturbation for a full two-hour period by wearing a hard-cup athletic supporter. I was given a Mueller jockstrap with FlexShield cup to wear and I put it on.

The Journey So Far

So I have a MGX Trident and I’ve used it maybe a dozen times over the last 6 months or so. I figured I’d share what I’ve learned in case anyone out there can benefit from it.

For lube, I use only olive oil. It’s a bit expensive, but I know it’s safe to eat and I feel like if you’re going to stick stuff up your butt, it should probably meet that minimal criterion. To help get things going I use a standard 10cc syringe (without a needle of course) and put about 4ccs of olive oil right up in there. Then slowly work the Aneros in and out 2 or 3 times until everything is nice and slippery.

Then I just relax and basically try to do beginners yoga meditation. Close your eyes. Breathe in for 5 seconds and out for 10 seconds. Then relax your bladder and bowels. Just relax them, do not “bear down”. Never clench any muscles or exert any force anywhere. Your only goal should be to find more and more muscles that can be relaxed. It’s slow to get it started, but after about 45 minutes I start to have two distinct types of orgasms.

The first kind is centred on the tip of the penis. There will be a lot of tingling and generally good feelings down there. Sometimes I get slightly hard (briefly) and sometimes there are contractions that stimulate a few drops of precum or urine (or both?) to come out, but never an actual ejaculation. So these orgasms have no ejaculatory refractory period and will occur repeatedly. People here sometimes call them “dry orgasms”.

Pleasure, emotions and healing

Hi everyone. Long time lurker and even longer time aneros user here. Even after years still no orgasm from aneros use, but not discouraged yet. My personal life experiences during the past couple of years have provoked me to ask a couple of questions:

1) After achieving your first aneros orgasms, did your life change in any way? Mainly interested in changes about your emotional state, your character, spirituality, etc.
2) Did you have any strong emotional struggles during times when you were still unable to orgasm from aneros use?
3) Those of you, who are still unable to orgasm from aneros, are you having any strong emotional struggles at the moment?

The reason I’m asking is because I have sort of “come out of the closet” during the last two years, not about my sexuality, but about my mental health issues. While searching for answers I’ve found a lot of interesting stuff regarding not only mental blocks, but how they connect to physical blocks as well. Humans are both physical and psychological beings, and these aspects don’t function separately, rather they work together. Thus, problems in the mind manifest in the body as well.

In Reichian psychology, the ability to orgasm fully, with involuntary sounds and convulsions, is seen as our natural gift, which is later supressed by trauma. The inability to achieve orgasms like this can lead to neuroses and sickness. Aneros, with it’s ability to produce such orgasms, could then be seen as a potential tool for healing.

Progasm or Maximus Trident?

Your advice and opinions are appreciated. I’ve got a Helix Syn, which I like very much. I used to use the Japanese version of the classic, original Aneros (I lived there for work), and I like the more aggressively-shaped Helix a lot.

I want to know which might provide the best balance between size and prostate contact between Maximus Trident and Progasm. I’ve read opinions on both. I’ve no problem with a large size at all, so that’s not a factor. I meditate a lot, so I find I can relax and it doesn’t get terribly uncomfortable. I’ve read some threads here but not been able to decide definitely which. Your ideas and opinions are much appreciated. Thanks, everyone!!