10 Years On… A little guidance needed.

Writing this as I’ve been using the aneros for many many years now (on and off) and curious as to how to expand/improve my experience. I know we’re not supposed to have any expectations, but it’s certainly a bit frustrating to read some of the testimonials from other guys here who describe “30 mins of rolling orgasms” “face-melting pleasure” etc! Of course, simply buying the toy meant we all had some sort of expectation going into it from the get go…

I think I’ve tried just about every suggestion found on Reddit and the aneros forums to help me on my journey, everything from fish oil, positions, breathing, hypnosis, sleeping with it in, porn, ganja- you name it, I’ve tried it. I own just about every Aneros model. What I can describe as my best experiences so far with toy are as follows:

I use coconut oil lube (which I find feels the most erotic), find a relaxing alone time w/o interruptions for a good hour session.

Usually I find the classic Helix or Eupho give me the most discernible reactions.

I find the “do nothing” method has the most effective for me- contractions and breathing feel very bland.

After insertion, the first 5 minutes often feel the best: I get an erection, tightness in my anus, the aneros is pulled in, faster heartbeat, erotic little pulses in my sphincter muscle. This feels like its building up into something sexy/exciting, but after a few minutes all these initial feelings subside and my anus and the aneros relax outwards.

Continuing to relax and fantasize, after a time in my bed, will sometimes produce more of a buildup feeling. My anus will sometimes feel “sexy” and swollen, the aneros larger, its almost as if my backdoor starts to feel probably like how a woman’s vagina feels when aroused: engorged and ready with blood pumping erotically.

The aneros at this point will start to get sucked in of its own accord (or am I am subconsciously willing it to like a Ouija board?), and starts moving in and out, much like a finger fuck.

I can get physical shakes/convulsions at this point in my arms and legs, but don’t find them pleasurable and they seem to short circuit all the buildup- so I try to relax until they calm down.

The anros continues to press into me harder as it continues to move in and out of its own accord, my breathing gets heavy, my body feels overheated, my heartrate through the roof. These contractions feel “hot” and exciting, rising and rising in intensity. My mind fills with lustful thoughts. Sometimes I think “woah” this is a bit crazy!

The tension and buildup can feel somewhat baseline pleasureable, certainly exciting, all of these contractions of my anus get faster and seemingly every muscle in my body focused on what happening in the immediate moment. My penis is usually soft at this point, no precum or anything like that.

And then, and then… my anus relaxes and all these lovely, erotic feelings subside quite quickly, and the aneros goes back to starting position. I feel a bit “But Wait!”, as if a girl just unzipped my fly, started blowing me and then put it back into my pants without an explanation.

Sometimes (but not always), the muscle tension will buildup to a crescendo, and the aneros will somehow “slip” across my prostate for 1-2 seconds, much like the muscle movement of my throat when I swallow, that just feels DIVINE. I’ve literally gasped for breath when it happens. Very pleasurable, but quick as hell- only giving me a brief glimpse of what the aneros could possibly produce. I might get one these “slips” once or twice in a session. Would love to reproduce or extend them…

All of these feelings leave me after an hour with the very strong urge to end it with my hand, but I definitely try to hold off on doing this until the next day. But I am horny as heck at this point.

So, my question to you all is have any of you had this same kind of experiences- and are the in and out movements I’m getting correct? If I relax into them too much they die down, so I often feel like I’m at once both trying to maintain focus and movement with the aneros, but trying to “let it all go” simultaneously.

I’d love to enhance/improve upon some nice feeling that I get with the aneros, but 50% of the time I’d say my sessions are pretty bland and just feel like I have a piece of plastic stuck in my behind.

Again, I’ve been at this for about 10 years, with some years sometimes where I just put the toys away for a while as I felt like I was getting frustrated/obsessed with results.

Any ideas?