I probably have < 20 attempts under my belt over the years. Today I was motivated. Reddit gave me the missing piece: keep trying new positions, different toys, new movements, new states of mind. Something will work, we’re all different so there’s different formulae that work for different people
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I finally found my prostate today by feeling around with the small end of the Pure Wand by Njoy. I had been missing it all these years, because I wasn’t aroused enough when looking, and I needed more experience exploring back there.
The feelings were subtle. I was looking at amateur porn from Reddit, and noticed that as my whole body started feeling better and better from looking at (tasteful) porn, the Aneros i switched to started to feel better. My whole body started feeling aroused, and the advice to leave my cock alone was right on the money (shot).
The o is a whole body o, so focusing on one body part won’t work. I had to keep manipulating the wand/Aneros, without thinking into the prostate, just being aware of the changing sensations.
I had to get into a sexy frame of mind, which had a diffuse effect all over. I started feeling more and more aroused to the point where the nekkid ladies I was looking at in the porn started to look really cute and desirable. So I went with this excited appreciation ( thank you anonymous ladies of Reddit who post amateur porn. You’re doing God’s work.)
Clenching my but cheeks got things going, but after an hour, the olive oil I inserted with a small enema bottle was settling in my colon and the neck of the Aneros was lacking lube and stalling. Then I passed gas, and the gas forced more oil out past/along the body of the Aneros so it loosened up and started moving. Lube is key, but I have to make sure that it’s distributed to keep things mobile. Once the lube took effect, things ramped up and I went from pushing/pulling/rapidly shaking the Aneros to just clenching butt cheeks, which started to feel really good. I had to let go o
kind of the way I did when I was learning to jack off as a kid.
When I came, that prostate really woke up and felt a little like putting a 9v battery on my tongue as a kid, and the orgasm was not centered anywhere, my whole body lit up.
I felt very intensely like I wanted to hold/ be held by a woman.
I ejaculated. Felt very different from penis orgasm ejaculation. VERY fulfilling.
I feel like my nervous system has been rewired. Empowered. Calmer. Centered. Very sexy but not in a needy way, in a generative way.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/8s5272/success_at_last_hfwo_after_days_and_days_of/