relaxation techniques

I’m still exploring the aneros itself, but I think the key to it is as everyone says relaxation and not thinking about it which I think is true.

I think I’m at a point where I can get the ball rolling with stimulation without touching. However I believe that it gets to a point where my anus muscles clench and hinder movement. maybe for some it feels like the feeling has gone or its gone numb, but I think its more the muscles are clenching too hard and not relaxing.

has anyone experienced this? Like it feels good and all but I think I’m like at the tipping point. anyone got any techniques or things to help them over this. I think I’ve had a couple of times when I tipped over, but I started to try to control it/realise what is happening and it goes away (once off).