I often see a metaphor on here that learning to have prostate orgasms involves first “hearing a whisper.” In other words, that the pleasure from prostate stimulation is incredibly subtle and easy to miss. I also see this used as the logic behind avoiding prostate vibrators at least to start with.
I’m still new to prostate stimulation. 2-3 Aneros sessions, a handful of sessions with a loki wave. But the only time I ever felt prostate pleasure was from a partner’s manual stimulation. When I’m on my own I just can’t seem to find the whisper. I’ve done mindgasm, and I’m really working on relaxing and letting go of expectations. I’m just soliciting any helpful tips, tricks, insights that you all may have had at this stage in your respective journeys.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/mgstmf/how_did_you_first_hear_the_whisper/
I may have interpreted the whisper idea to fit my needs, but Im under the impression that it is more about waiting for a day where you just *feel* you need to play with your prostate. This morning I was scrolling my usual subs and saw a particularly hot handsfree gif and it just made my whole pelvic region tingle. I kinda squirmed around on the couch for a second. To me, that’s the whisper.
Your thinking about missing subtlety during sessions is right though. When you start to feel things your brain will want to try and help the feelings progress, but it may be more helpful to try to relax into the sensation rather than actively work anything out. Let your muscles do their thing and pay attention to what’s going on. I don’t think it’s coincidence that you’ve had better sensations from your partner stimulating you. You don’t have to think about what it is that’s happening, you just feel. And the “whisper” part of that equation is the horny factor from what your partner is doing to you.
In the end, it’s a lot of trial and error my dude, so keep going!
I had nice sensations from my first session, but what really ramped things up was to edge beforehand. That should help make the pleasure more obvious once you insert the toy
my 1st whisper… oh my… well. i was about 2 years into my voyage in aneros land. was getting nowhere really.. then one day, i had given up my time, and then, as i was putting my toys away, as it were… something called me. … i thought, ok why not i was a few minutes. … then… holy crap.. i mean HOLY CRAP… within seconds after i put it back in, something was really different. .. i felt something strong and amazing… contracting, spasming, clenching, breathing wildly. .. then it hit.. orgasm.. unreal orgasm.. like nothing i have ever felt. .. i came without cumming. i was so tired after. i could have slept. . i was so spent yet i was not empty.
i learned that day that you can’t chase the orgasm.. let it find you.
Strangely enough I didn’t know what it was. Before I was to go in for my first colonoscopy I had to use a couple of enemas to get things clean down there. I found using the enemas was arousing. I didn’t know why though. I eventually came across prostate message when I was researching about prostate health. I started reading about prostate message and that explained the erotic feelings about exploring myself more sexually. It seemed so dirty but an incredible turn on.
I’m getting whatever the opposite of the whisper is, so now I know. Was doing really well with the Aneros, too. Had an accident and spent 5 days in hospital and now home in pain. No whisper at all lol.
Never heard a thing for years. Then got a little serious and did a lot of reading here. A few months later after another 40min of nice but nothing much I stopped my contractions sighed and went to remove my Helix… when a gentle light feathery trill went through my prostate .. just once.. in my shock and eagerness to MAKE it happen again.. I scared it away… had still learn not to chase the O not to demand it but to accept what my body gave.
In hindsight my prostate has probably whispered for years but I just didnt know how to listen.
Great question OP…
I got to a point they came pretty fast if I smoke weed. Sometimes not even poppers is needed. Last night I had one that my eyes rolled back and my stomach got so contracted that I thought it would burst out because it was so damn intense. The whisper to me is when I start noticing that my breathing is speeding up and my pelvic area starts to move around