To preface, I (30M) have experimented with prostate stimulation on and off for years. I’ve used my fingers, various massagers (just upgraded to the Helix syn), and I’m even lucky enough to have a fiancé that likes to get involved (she’s used her fingers and we also do pegging from time to time). For all this time I’ve only been able to achieve better “traditional” orgasms and have been okay with that (and so had my fiancé 😉.
I stumbled upon this forum back towards the beginning of the pandemic. My hours at work were cut way back and I had a lot of time on my hands. Over these last few months I tried and I tried but could still only achieve those “Super T’s”, which was fine.
Then last night it just clicked… and to be honest all this time I’d been doing two big things wrong.
The first was I had been flexing “backwards”… I’m no expert in anatomy but, to put it simply, all this time I was keeping my anus loose and flexing my “don’t pee muscle”. After spending the last week or so reading through this forum I realized my mistake. Last night I tried “rolling”… flexing both the anus and “don’t pee muscle” and then loosening the “DPM” but keeping the anus flexed.
The second big thing, and really it’s the biggest thing, has been my mindset. We’ve all seen the posts saying “don’t have expectations” “just enjoy the journey”. To anybody who dismisses this advice (I was one) all I have to say is please don’t give up… I have seen the top of the mountain and it is good.
So what happened last night? To start I spent the day reading posts… stretching… hydrating. After laying down for bed, and the fiancé going to sleep (she’s completely cool with my solo stuff btw) I got myself in the mood. Once it felt right , I lubed up and inserted the helix. I then just relaxed and breathed and after about 20 mins I began my “rolling” technique. While doing this I just focused on how it felt (disregarding my erection as it waxed and waned) after about another 20 mins or so it happened… I started feeling the flutters… these flutters kept going for what felt like 15 mins until it felt like I was right on the edge of a traditional O…. then it just kept going, I felt like I was orgasming for like 20 minutes straight! I held on to the tiger’s tail for as long as I could… but then I lost the focus (hard to focus when you’re literally having one of the best orgasms in your life and it’s lasting 20 mins lol)
After the feelings stopped I laid there and just took it in. After a while I checked my cock… still rock hard and soaked in the most pre-cum I’ve ever produced… I indulged myself and finished off with a great Super T and then finally pulled out the helix and crashed from exhaustion.
To sum it up. All I can say is keep going… it’s real guys. Don’t be discouraged by failure, what honestly helped me was knowing going into last night that I’d have an orgasm no matter what… and boy did I!
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/mikkc7/grabbing_the_tiger_by_its_tail/
With you on not getting the flexing quite right. The breakthrough I had was embracing the “have to pee” feeling and not just relax but *actively* push, and trust that I’m not going to pee the bed.
Yeah I only flexed the DPM too. When it comes to the rolling, so you end it with a relaxed anus or no?
Think you could achieve this with a partner helping or is this a solo technique mostly? And would trusting not be necessary but maybe just some smaller movements while doing the ‘rolling? Curious as I’d like to suggest this to my husband. Thx!
Keeping the anus at least partially clenched the whole time is, as another user put it, like holding a jar with one hand (anus) while twisting the other hand (DPM) on the lid. You cant open a jar by just twisting the lid without any grip on the jar itself.
Pretty good metaphor, I thought.
For me its like holding your legs straight out and eventually they get tired and start flexing on their own.This is what happens with the anal muscles,you hold a partial clench until they tire this causes confusion which leads to pleasure.After this happen you are on auto pilot,reacting to the pleasure rather than trying to cause pleasure which is futile.