Iāve read so much about prostate orgasm for *years* just got my first toy.
Nglā¦I ordered a toy thinking it was a vibrating toy (I swear I was reading up for hours; I mustāve been too excited!) and when it came, I realized it was not. A prograsm.
I got kinda disappointed, until I realized how good this specific toy could feel. Based on reviews I read and my own, very limited experience.
Though Iām stillā¦confused? Mini-Oās. Super-Oās. P-waves. Involuntaries. Ebbs and flows. Peaks. Dry and wet. My mind swirls! 
I have definitely not had an orgasm yet; though I thought I was getting there in the moment. I know this because the sensations felt goodā¦but not as good as a penile orgasm.
I have been at this for only 3 nights. The first night, I was a bit overzealous, looking back on it. I ended up on my floor, grinding hard because it was feeling amazing. I was sweating profusely LOL. At that point, I thought I needed really exaggerated movements to feel good. I realized the next night that just lying on my stomach and contracting my PC muscles over and over again was the actual key.
I think Iāve felt āP-wavesā now that I read about them. My ass pulsates and I almost feel these deep vibrations in my groin. Itās frustrating because I keep feeling like itās finally gonna happen, but I just end up hanging there.
So hereās my question. I know that the best āadviceā is going to be ādonāt think too muchā, ā just feel what youāre feelingā, āitās all mentalā. I get that. Iām not so much asking what I need to do to have these violent bouts of pleasure that I jealously read up on, Iām asking if Iām actually closer/farther than I think. Is what I described āP-wavesā, the pulsating and vibrating? It leads to my legs and arms shaking. Can someone kinda define what some of those thing above actually look like? How do I know if Iām close.
Any discussion will help me! I feel kinda weird and alone so far in my journey and I wanted to share and tell the world (people I donāt know, anyways) that I am going to cum hard from my prostate one day!
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/mruar7/looking_for_some_clarification_on_what_im_feeling/
So, the problem with Progasming is that theyāre unpredictable. Even the most seasoned of seasoned anerosers (? lol) can have sessions without them if theyāre not in the right headspace.
The advice I always give people is do more of what feels good. When I was first learning (and sometimes now) Iāll get on the brink of a prostate orgasm and Iāll start thinking of it, and stop it dead in its tracks. If you got ANY good feelings during your ride, then it can be considered a success. Just remember that. Itās literally about the journey not the end destination.
At this point, Iād just say fine tune your PC/Spincter muscles in a cognitive way. If I do this, this happens. If I do that, OMG OMG OMG *THAT* HAPPENS. I need three of āthatā and one of āthisā. Once the muscle memory is learned, your body will just ROLL with it. Focus on making more āthatsā happen and who knows you might have some Progasms.
I know they say donāt think about it, and thatās all you think about. But, like if you need to think of anything focus on just that prostate and what itās feelingā¦. eventually your body will start feeling silky, focus on that, and youāll be hootinā and hollerinā boots knockinā before you know it. It just kindaā¦ wellā¦. cums..
I go into my sessions wanting to relax and feel sexy. When I start to feel good my mind wanders and thinks of ejaculating, but I have been learning to relate it to the feeling before ejaculation, that feeling you get where you can stop yourself from cumming but still feels good