I got myself an aneros helix trident (plastic) and used it for the first time today. It’s my first sex toy let alone a prostate toy, so I wasn’t sure what to expect. I got in a shower tub, turned on an audio from r/gonewildaudio, lubed the toy up and put it inside me.
Nothing really happened for the first 20 minutes or so as I was just trying to relax and arouse myself. I slowly held the aneros with my PC muscle and let it go, repeating that slowly while gently thrusting my hip. Some time past, I felt like I leaked a drop or two of precum. I got distracted by the surprise of it so the leaking stopped quicky, unfortunately. Some time later, every time I clenched on the aneros my lower body started shaking like a maniac. And then, you know when you slept on one of your arms and afterwards it feels like your arm is numb and it feels like there’s sparks flowing through it? That happened to my whole body. My body didn’t exactly get sensitive, contrary to what I’ve read, just that sensation. I also felt like my bladder was full and I had to pee, but everytime I tried to pee I couldn’t, as if there was a wall blocking it even though I wasn’t hard (why did that happen?).
That kept going on for about 40 minutes without much progress until the muscles in my ass and my PC muscles started to get genuinely tired. I then just finished it off by a traditional orgasm which was stronger and longer, but I was so exhausted at that point it was just too overwhelming to feel good.
I never felt like I could *feel* my prostate. It never felt like the aneros was rubbing something. I know how it’s like to rub my prostate (with my fingers), but I just didn’t feel that with an aneros. I knew something was happening because of the shaking and numbness, but I never really felt anything *down there*.
Did I do anything wrong? What’s supposed to happen next after those phenomenas? Also, what’s best to do when you’re letting the aneros in and out, stroking parts of your body to get aroused or just lay and relax?
Feel free to ask questions about details if you see something more to correct!
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/mwfe0h/first_session_with_good_progress_whats_next_3/
You’ve experienced a lot in such a short amount of time. If you get the opportunity to do this when lying in bed, then that would be amazing. Then you can really relax.
I know you’re starting out, but they to refrain from masturbating to finish the session, it gives you the expectation of a traditional orgasm which can distract from the experience
Honestly, I would just try different positions. On back with knees bent, legs flat, or holding your legs up. On your side. Face down flat, on your knees, flat but with some pillows propping your hips up.
You could also try a different model. Perhaps something bigger, but still made of plastic.
the shakes and shivers may be a side effect of an actually prostate orgasm, but having it doesn’t mean u are having one. i used to too have the same experience as you, my body shakes and contorts so badly but there was no sexual pleasure. while i can have a full sensory sexual orgasm during meditation while my body isn’t moving. spasm shouldn’t be used as an indicator of your success. u have to be relaxed and focus. most of the dont know what real relaxation is, so we become bored/tired/sleepy when we try to relax, and that will never give u any orgasm. focus on your bodily sensation, make love to yourself, move around, play with your nipples, tickle your skins(your balls, sacrum, back, arms, armpit), sniff something that arouses you(personally i love a manly odour) look at your body with such aw/love/passion/lust, listen your inner vibration as waves of pleasure come forth from deep within you, listen to the way u make noise as u feel the pleasure rising. immerse yourself fully with all 5 senses. like eating a delicious meal when u are starving, the sight, smell, texture, taste, and sound, these are the basic beauty of life that we learnt to stop appreciating and we wonder why life isn’t beautiful. each of these sense while being focused, open up your heart and u become the receiver of all life’s pleasure, u will feel the main source of the multiple orgasm, the most satisfying divine orgasm actually originate from your heart, and your sexual organs(the rest of your whole body) are just complimenting the heart orgasm.
When you got in the shower/tub were you in water ? I’ve never tried a session in water before or with a hot bath. Probably the best way to relax.