Okay. First time poster here. (anywhere really) But I just tried by aneros for the first time since I had surgery down south of the border. I had only tried it a couple times before then, both with my wife, and couldn’t quite get comfortable with it.
4 months later, today, I get a wild hair in my derriere to give it a try by myself, sans wife, and see where things go.
Short back story: I have a bit of anxiety, obsessive compulsive features but I maintain and thrive in a successful life, generally without others knowing. A lot of this anxiety, lately, has focused around bodily sensations, heart rate, random pains, etc. I have worked hard to rid myself of those obsessions (by tackling/eliminating the compulsive side) with great success. I am also an avid meditator. Over 2000 days now. This will make sense in the story, I swear.
So. The Aneros. I do all the pre-game work getting everything at the border prepared for a full invasion, lay down, and storm the beaches…gently. The ship has docked, the torpedo has hit its target, the….okay I have the aneros in my butt right where it is supposed to be.
I throw on some great headphones, a good meditation track on repeat, and just lay on the ground with gentle little gyrations but otherwise very little to no movement. Just a bit of waiting.
Then, I start doing little itsy squeezes on the aneros. Nothing major, just tiny squeezes….I am very relaxed. I am greeting all my thoughts of shame, anxiety, worry about whether I am ‘doing things right’, with open armed mindfulness. I am just here for the experience.
Even any sexual imagery I don’t cling too. I am just here for my body and myself alone. I also let go of any illusions about what this could be like, should be like, especially where it concerns pleasure around my penis or whether it should be erect during this (it isn’t).
Things…quickly got away from me…
About 15-30 minutes in (I honestly have no idea), I start getting the oft spoken of sensations, a budding warmth, that is really hard to describe. Then, the little squeezes I was doing on the aneros start becoming automatic. Like, I don’t have control. I don’t have any control at all. But I just let things go as they seem to naturally be going…
Then…my body, of it’s own accord, really starts squeezing, then just convulsing down there non-stop, its like waves and waves of my rectum just closing down on the aneros…
Suddenly…
My heart starts POUNDING, my fingers start tingling, my breathing sharpens and this pressure starts building…I quickly lift my legs up, open my eyes and force my body to relax, thus tamping down the sensation a bit and mostly stopping the involuntary contractions…
This is too much for me you see, I have anxiety, especially about my body. I don’t like having a racing heart, especially when I am only laying down, or tingling limbs or crazy out of control experiences…but there is something too this…I know it was supposed to feel like this to some degree but this is scary! Should I keep going…
I do…I get back in the game…the contractions where tamped down to about 10% so not totally…I relax and holy crap the entire experience comes back in 1.2 seconds, 10x more intense than when I stop…
My whole body is writhing, I feel this intense pressure building again and my heart is pounding out of my chest! I open my eyes again to try and stop the experience. I am between possibly the best pleasure of my life and what feels like a panic attack (never had one before). I check my heart rate, 115 bpm. My resting is usually in the 50s or 60s. But the sensations don’t stop I am still in the middle of this.
My hands start shaking and are extremely tingly…I am writhing between two feelings of unknown pleasure/excitement and anxiety at the complete loss of control and….
I quickly reach down and pull out the aneros…
I am left out of breath, tingling everywhere, heart racing, not sure what to do, but I know I didn’t let things go the full route. I was too panicked from the impending loss of control. Took me about 30 minutes to get right again (at which point my wife got home and we…took care of things the traditional route).
I know this isn’t the usual story but I am posting because, I need to know, should I have not stopped things? The tingling, the heart rate, the total loss of bodily control…are these normal experiences for the Big O? Or in my case approaching the Big O?
Just here to get some assurance as I am equally intrigued and apprehensive at trying again. Somehow, I know I could get back to that state with no issue, it’s like I have explored the trail to the end point and could walk it again if I so chose…I just failed to take the leap at the end.
I was 99% there I am sure of it but I just couldn’t take the full plunge with the weight of the anxiety around how insanely out of control my body was…
Next time…should I just take the leap and see where it goes?
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I’d love to get where you are. I, too, have anxiety. It’s revealing itself more with age (52m). If I could get to the point you’ve reached, I may react the same way you did. I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. I feel pleasure, amazing pleasure, but nothing close to what you described. I have shook some but never had the body euphoria. Thanks for your post! It gives me hope
Hello, first I wanna say you congratulations : you have been successful on something which lots of times is hard.
What you have felt is a full body O.
(it is very difficult to know when it begins and it ends).
Everything what you have felt is ok, is safe and nothing to be worried.
Most of us are used to the orgasm we have while cum which is very “poor” as we don’t let it build (out body needs its time to be ready and could release all the hormones which are released while orgasm, which is something than only a few have. In fact these is something than people who edge could explain better why his orgasm are deeper and more powerful).
When we have a dry orgasm they are very similar to the one women have which feels as if something were flowing inside and we can have more without need to wait.
The prostate orgasm are these kind of orgasm but the energy which is build is higher and the sensations are more powerful.
In fact we can research a mental state similar to the trance which happenes during hipnosis.
I know it is hard, but i recommended you be calm and enjoy whatever happens : your body will no make anything than hurts you.
Try no overthink and simply think of it as a way of meditation which gives you higher levels of pleasure and a deeper grade of mental trance.
If you feel fear, ask your wife who be with you while you enjoy : she can help you massaging your body and use her voice to help you maintain the calm.
Don’t worry if your body shakes uncontrollable, or you feel a rush of energy moving around your body..
Again : congratulations and enjoy it without fear
Thanks for sharing your experience!!! I have been an active estimmer for decades but recently (< 6 months) discovered prostate play. Prostate play is changing my sexual focus! I have more recently begun the Mindgasm technique and have started to experience precursors of the types of pleasure you received with your Aneros. I have just ordered a Helix Syn V and am now, with increasing anticipation, checking the mailbox daily. I hope to gain what you have seen! Good luck in your journey!!!
Sounds pretty standard for this type of experience, I also think you’re about to have a lot of fun.