Hi, my boyfriends bday is approaching and I would like to buy him an aneros toy.
I have to say that he is new to this and has never tried anything anal. My ex in comparison really enjoyed it, but he knew himself so well, that I didn’t have to take care of anything (he knew how to ease himself into being able to take up big sizes too, he did the cleansing himself etc. …).
I don’t do anal toys at all on myself so I am not really experienced – thus, I would like to ask:
– should I get him the Helix trident? What is suitable for a beginner?
– I guess he will need an anal doushe too? Can I get any recommendations for that?
– should I get him poppers?? Are there other alternatives to them? (Never used them. Im scared they work similar to drugs)
– I would also like us to use it together on him – meaning maybe having some kind of mutual sexual experience while him using it (I am a woman), do you think this is possible? I don’t know if him having it inside and me stimulating his penis would be the same as me as a woman having a vaginally inserted dildo while the man pleasuring her orally on the clitoris … I assume that he needs to be relaxed w the aneros inside to have some pleasure, no? How should we approach this so it would be a mutually pleasurable experience and that he would be as relaxed as possible anally?
– my idea was to introduce him to this since he enjoys outward prostate stimulation so much. My and ex and me did pegging but I think we can’t start with that and he is open for internal prostate play for starters…
Any advice welcome!
Thank you!!
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They say the Helix is a good toy for beginners because it’s so obvious that it’s pressing on your prostate, but the smallest toy is the Eupho which could be helpful for someone who’s not used to penetration. Poppers can be dangerous so it’s really what you’re both comfortable with. It can be very nice with a toy inside during traditional masturbation but also the pressure can be intense on the prostate, especially if he’s not used that and particularly during ejaculation, could be an idea to take it out before he cums first time. It can definitely be part of you both having fun and he can use it alone too without normal masturbation involved if he wants. You could perhaps even help him with hands free prostate orgasms, just from him being so turned on with the toy in, kissing, feeling etc
Hi,
To quickly give you some feedback to your points….
* The Helix trident is an EXCELLENT beginner toy. I would recommend looking at the [Helix Syn Trident](Helix-trident?bg_ref=A0B5yAsItP&tid1=reddit" rel="nofollow ugc">https://www.aneros.com/products/Helix-trident?bg_ref=A0B5yAsItP&tid1=reddit) version, which is made from hard ABS plastic which allows silicone lube to be used on it (or any lube you’d like, really). This version allows for a lot more natural movement IMO vs the silicone version which requires a lot of reapplication and isn’t as slippery when lubricated.
* Anal douche is optional. It’s messy, takes a long time… etc. My best method to prepare is to drink coffee and take a few hours to ensure a full evacuation. Then I shower and use a soapy finger to clean. If you own a bidet, it might be good to use that as an alt.
* I would say no poppers. You never know what they’re made of, and if you care about his health…. stay away. Smoke weed if anything. A little bit.
* You can absolutely have sex while he’s using the device. Best position for him is probably on his back, feet flat on the bed, so if you can work that — it should be amazing.
* It’s general use is for solo hands free prostate massage that does not involve penis stimulation. So it’s really a dual-use sorta thing ;-). [I have a small page that talks about solo use.](https://pgasmfun.com)
* This is a great stepping stone for butt play for him. Good on you for this!!!
We can name any Aneros device, however his body is not going to be the same as ours. Only the Progasm and Eupho reach my prostate, and only the lower portion.
I recommend all of humankind to buy a Eupho, it gives amazing waves 🌊 off pleasure, it can work solo or during piv. It is very slim and longest. Some will say not to get this for a beginner because of the muscle tone they need to work it. I don’t use muscle contractions at all and it moves plenty from my body taking over.
I just lay there totally relaxing, deep breathing on my back, feet flat. After forty minutes (sometimes after a couple minutes) it starts moving without me doing anything.
For sexy time, I just lube up (always organic coconut oil), slip it in and resume normal stuff with her, trying to forget it’s there (not really possible 😳🤤).
One more thing, get the paradise set also, no matter what you get him ($20 very well spent). It will not hit the prostate at all for me, but gives huge waves of pleasure.
I recommend the Helix Trident. It’s my favorite so I’m biased. But, the Eupho is good too.
Yes, buy him a water bulb that he can use to rinse out with. Lukewarm water is fine.
Once you give it to him, you may want to ask him what he wants to do – use it by himself until he gets it figured out or you join him and you both figure it out.
Look up poppers and see the possible side effects. I don’t use them or any other thing that alters my senses. If I can’t enjoy a session without something like that, I don’t want to have the session. That’s just me.
I like the Helix Syn trident, skip the poppers and instead of an enema or douche, I just take psyllium husks everyday as natural fiber and that seems to do the trick. Blowjobs with the Helix inserted are otherworldly. For me the Helix stays inside during PIV sex and helps me with stamina and hardness. I use it quite often like this and my wife is a fan.
Get him a Eupho . Easy for beginners
The toys are nice, but they take lots of practice, and reading helps a lot. Present the toy to him and have him read this:
https://wiki.malegspot.com
And have him come to reddit for questions!