So I’ve been experimenting on and off with prostate play for about 5 years now but without any real success until I started experimenting with Mindgasm in January. Even then I just felt like I was on the right track rather than actually having outright success. Weed isn’t something I would usually use but I decided to make up some cookies (smoking makes me nauseous) and instantly my sessions were transformed. Still no actual climax but I was getting some real pleasure and lots of moments of feeling like I was on the edge of some kind of climax. Anyway, I’ve now run out of cookies and would rather not use weed long term (I have problems with addiction so need to steer clear really) but my sessions since are pretty much void of any pleasure – maybe some very mild pleasant sensations but nothing much. I try not to end any of my sessions with traditional masturbation but I find it hard to go more than a couple of days without penis stimulation. The only thing I can think to try is a longer time abstaining from traditional masturbation to help with rewiring. Any thoughts from others? Especially from people who are having success without the support of THC?
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My job prevents me from using anything related to weed. Even any cbd products. We get randomly tested. So I started as of 5 years ago with no success at first. Hardly anything. My success just took a lot of time, patience & research. Don’t give up. Yes obstaining from masterbation for a few days definitely helps. Also in my experience trying this every day doesn’t necessarily help. If anything it can desensitize your prostate. 2 to 3 times a week is perfect for me. Mindset is very important and this also takes some time to achieve. Non vibrating toys work great for me however I have yet to have a prostate orgasm from a vibratory toy. Lube makes a difference cause moment is everything. I use natural coconut oil. At 55 years old now these things have helped me with some very pleasurable sessions. Haven’t had a super O regularly yet but a couple in the beginning. Maybe beginner’s luck but I know I’m capable. You’ll get there. Just have patience and work on the things that you notice that help and write them down in a journal. I did that so I wouldn’t forget them. Good luck. 👍
Sessions can be very hit-or-miss. Everyone experiences this. I’ve been a weed user in the past and it helped with sessions. But I had to quit for precisely the reason you mention, addiction. So I quit cold turkey. Anywho, more recently I’ve used counting contractions to keep my mind occupied during a session. And if the session takes a good turn and involuntaries start I keep counting at the same rate and it helps as I cannot become mentally involved in other mental chatter that questions what is happening during a session. As you know it can become a mental game a lot of times and the monkey mind can derail you.
As a former alcoholic and heroin addict I’ve struggled with this a lot. I’ve been on the journey for about 5 months now and weed has definitely helped, although I am able to have highly pleasurable sessions without it, the weed (and porn) is hard to resist, and the only times I’ve had prostate orgasms. I can enjoy sober a-less sessions, and get to the edge of orgasm, so I know it’s possible, but it’s much less consistent. I’m trying to decide whether I can be ok with weed, and also porn in my life. Wondering if it’s ok to allow myself this addiction, because I derive so much comfort from it. Anyone else a trauma survivor? CPTSD? I feel the sober, meditative path with no porn, if accomplished is the more sustainable way. Generally the more challenging path yields greater rewards. But I wonder how unhealthy this practice is and if I should feel guilty about it. I don’t drink or do any other drugs, only plant medicines, and live a very peaceful and active life. Maybe I don’t need to fit into society and be productive. I own an great house in Thailand and get money from a trust fund. Maybe this ok and I can find a partner who is also ok with it.
Weed isn’t really addictive like a lot of other drugs, but if you really want to avoid it you might try making up a fairly strong CBD + CBN tincture. Both of these cannabinoids are considered non-psychoactive, but I find that CBD + CBN provides a little bit of the “body high” you get from a good indica strain of cannabis. It’s not nearly as strong of an effect, but I find it does activate my prostate somewhat, and while the sessions are not as good as with actual THC, they’re still better than using nothing at all.
A semi-healthy diet, regular sports (helps with feeling good), avoid stress, have time and space to relax alone (tho can be fun with the gf), and only when somewhat aroused (i.e. not too often and not out of boredom). I find if I’m under pressure from work or anything I cannot get in the right headspace, too distracted. If I’m feeling good about myself (good day at work, made a deadline, did worthwhile stuff, whatever) it’s usually a precursor to a good session. I rarely watch porn, never tried combining it with weed (yet). Nipple play helps a lot, especially in the beginning. Abstaining helps too. I always remember “don’t chase it”, treat it like a little campfire you have to blow mental air on to let the flame grow. I try to focus inward and just feel whatever is there. Initially it was very little (well, compared to now lol). Took me a couple of months alternating between do nothing & hip rocking, but after a while it got easy to have consistent great sessions. I don’t know much about meditation, but in my mind, this is very similar in it requiring ability to focus on whatever you feel inside.
If you’re struggling to get in the right mental space, considering having a good thai massage done before a session that should help with relaxing, get your muscles stretched. That rosy post-massage in-touch-with-your-body feel is a great place to start.
I used to have bad/non-sessions but that usually meant one of the above conditions wasn’t met. Pack it up and try again another day.