Hi folks — I’ve owned a progasm Jr for almost a decade now but only in the past couple months been focusing on prostate play. I gotta say, it’s become somewhat frustrating. Feel like I’ve tried everything — picked up a progasm classic, helix and eupho (and even a tantus p-spot and njoy wand) but still only sporadic contractions and some minor pleasure is all I’ve been able to get out of it. I even tried the peridise, both sizes in the starter kit, and barely get any contractions from those.
Feel like I’ve tried everything I can think of — do nothing method, do nothing except light contraction/anchored tension, Mindgasm techniques, rhythmic contractions, weed, LSD, poppers, watching porn, no porn, binaural beats, audio erotica.
I’ve been playing probably 5 times a week — 2-3 hrs a session on average. I’m guessing this is probably too much. I’m just frustrated and I know I’m chasing the O but I don’t know how to fix that. Any advice?
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how about go beyond “do nothing”….let me splain….
A key ingredient to good prostate stimulation is being aroused. Sometimes, just the act of getting ready, getting the toy lubed, getting it inserted, etc is a real mood breaker and nothing is going to happen. One of the best forms of arousal is anticipation….and this works for me.
An hour or so before I am going to have time for a session, I get a toy like the Helix inserted. Then I put my pants back on and go back to work (I work from home) or out to the garage, whatever. This allows the toy to gently get the prostate warmed up, while your brain is thinking about the upcoming session. I’ll start getting p-waves and I am not focused AT ALL on the session or the sensations. Around an hour-ish, I have no choice but to go lay down and let it come on fully.
Of course, YMMV, but this works for me.
Not gonna lie, a couple months isn’t very much. Some people take a decade to figure it out. I played with my butt for 15 years but didn’t officially start to learn until I officially started trying. So give it some time and do it a little less frequently. Try semen retention and 2-3 sessions a week, maybe 1-2 hours max.
If I may ask how do you manage to sit with a aneros with those long tabs?
It’s all a mental barrier-you have to learn how to be receptive to the pleasure and let it take over. That many sessions per week doesn’t help- try doing a less sessions and focus on relaxation and focus on the feelings of arousal, and let them expand on their own…don’t force them