My experiences after 10 years of aneros

Aneros user of about 10 years. Warning: long post ahead. Unfortunately no TL:DR. Tips and tricks section after the wall of text 🙂

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While penis-centered sexuality as I learnt it as a teenager is more of a mechanical approach the joy your prostatate can give you requires a more holistic process. For me set and setting are important. Nowadays I rarely have time to use my aneros (job,kids,friends, sports … ) but when the opportunity arises the foreplay / preperation is an important part of the experience.

Throughout the day (s before) I do some PC muscle squeezes which already activate my prostate because it knows whats to come. I like to take a bath or a nice hot shower, do some hair removal around my penis, the balls and the perineum/anus (Sugaring ftw!) so everything is smooth and hairless, give myself a pedicure (soft feet feel amazing 😉 and eventually put on a jockstrap (it feels sexy and keeps the penis out of the way while the anus is accessible) and douche just for the ease of mind. Ill then go about some chores, gardenwork, go for a walk or do some yoga, sometimes with a buttplug in, sometimes without – all in the sexy anticipation of whats to come.

For me the “do nothing” approach works best. I ll just lie there, ideally after some yoga practise, breathing deeply, observing the sensations in my pelvic area. Still to my amazement my body adjusts the toy itself and works it with ever so slight involuntary contractions that tickle the prostate and produce very subtle feelings of sexual pleasure – not centered around my penis but from depper within me.

I hardly get an erection, most times my penis is totally flaccid, usually oozing with precum. The only time I touch my penis is to get some precum as lube to play with my nipples. My hips will eventually start shaking and my PC muscles will contract hard, leading to more shaking. While this looks super hot on the videos and also produces pleasurable feelings I found it to be some kind of “road block” in the way of the joys that are potentially awaiting. I try to actively relax out of the shaking , back to breathing, observing sensations.

Usually this leads to a buildup of tingling energy in my perineum (root chakra – more later), I then try to “add” to this energy by breathing deeply into it. I cant force an orgasm, even if I wanted to – the prostate and the energy it seemingly is working with has a mind of its own, mine just tolerates being curiously observed while being humbly nurtured by relaxation and breathing. If I suceed (I still fail rather miserably often 😉 in not rushing into “give me that fucking orgasm” that energy travels up my body, and fills my head and body with a very hard to describe immensly pleasureable feeling that makes me moan and cry out _loud_ (and usually im not the vocal type when having sex). This feeling comes and goes in waves, eventually I ll get a really really calm feeling and just lie there in bliss when suddenly another wave hits.

If I can abstain I try to not end my sessions with a wet orgasm to keep all that delicous sexual energy, especially if I have opportunity to play again the next day, or have sex with my wife – but sometimes Im just so worked up that I cant resist. After such a session I ejaculate way more than usual and feel completly drained afterwards.

**A few tips and tricks that work I found on the way:**

**Yoga:**

helps immensly, especially routines activating your root and sacral chakra. Im by no way the esoteric type, and call it what you like, but I can feel the energy during my sessios where all the yoga people describe to be these chakras. Also makes you feel good with out aneros play afterwards.

**Stay hydrated:**

Seems to be important, cant tell you why. Just go pee if your bladder produces a unpleasureable feeling and continiue

**Pain medication:**

I noticed that Ibuprofen numbs the feelings the prostate can produce

**Dont touch your dick:**

Its a distraction. Unintentionally rubbing your dick on the sheets while lying on your stomach can be enough stimulation to trigger a wet orgasm. Heck I even had a wet orgasm by just pulling back my foreskin to firm. I like to wear a jockstrap or a chastity cage because that way my penis cant rub against anything. Also I cant rub it 😉

**Bigger is not better:**

I didnt have any good sessions with the prograsm, its just hammering on my prostate too aggessive, though the progasm feels nice while having traditional sex. My go the is the eupho syn or a small (like maye 2-3 cm girth / 5 cm length) buttplug. Once you have a firm connection to your prostate your anus can make quite a few things work. Including even no toy at all.

**Weed / THC:**

Holy shit, its quite the shortcut. Just a bit though, too much and I cant orgasm at all. When I tried it the first time I had trouble walking to the bathroom upstairs because I was constantly orgasming

**Accupressure, caressing yourself:**

Pressing on a spot a few cms below my bellybutton works wonders, also massaging my perineum right inbetween the middle of my anus and my testicles. Pulling the hair of my happy trail upwards -hnnng-. Accupressure spot right on the base between my big toe and adjacent toe. Of course: nipple play! Somewhat firmly slapping my balls and / or as is producing an intense wave of pleasure.

**Talking dirty to myself:**

Sometimes the toy gives me a fucking sensation. Especially in doggy, upper body on the bed or couch. I found it weird at first but telling whatever fucks you so good to keep going was hot and helpful.

**Positions:**

Lying flat on the back, optionally back arched upwards, tilting my pelvis upwards.

Doggy style with upper body on couch, penis not touching anything, pressure of my bodyweight pressing the area right above my penis

Back on the floor, lower legs on a low chair / couch

**Other lessons learnt so far:**

Male sexuality is not as one dimensional as most people think. My experiences with aneros made me more open to things I wouldnt have thought of a few years ago. E.g. my wife pegged me once so far, will be continued hopefully. It was a wonderful and intimate relationship experience, far beyond her fucking me with a strapon. Also I figured Im probably heteroromantic but bisexual, havent explored this further yet. And problably a lot more more Im not remembering right now, also the post is already way to long. Congrats if you made it until here 🙂

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Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/15syfhx/my_experiences_after_10_years_of_aneros/