I’ve been using Aneros for a few years now and absolutely love it! I first started around 2017(ish) but it was during the pandemic that I really started to invest in it properly – living alone and all that. It took me a few years to rewire but I followed all the advice, stayed patient and I gradually improved. There were a few ups and downs, a few duff sessions, but overall I could really feel my progress. Eventually, I was able to ride those p-waves, would moan the house down as I experienced intense HFDO one after another, and would eventually climax with an intense HFWO. Complete sessions could be as quick as 20 minutes if I was pressed for time, or I could ride the pleasure for over an hour. I felt like I was really beginning to master it and I loved it!
I now have a partner who lives with me and my sex life is very active, so my frequency using Aneros has decreased a lot over the past few years. However, I still use it whenever I have the house to myself and despite my decreased frequency, I’m still able to reach the same intense pleasures like when I was using it regularly. Well that was until recently…
The past 4 or so months I’ve just been unable to get anywhere close to where I was. I feel like I’m starting again from the very beginning. Once I pop it in, I get a few pleasurable tingles during the first 5-10 minutes, and maybe the odd mild HFDO but nothing close to the intensity I was previously experiencing. After about 30 minutes, it’s clear that my session isn’t going anywhere. I’ve tried to ride it out but it’s just not happening.
My technique is literally just lying there in the dark, sex/moaning sounds in my ears to drown out external sounds, and doing nothing except some light nipple play and letting my involuntary movements do all the work. This technique hasn’t failed me at all until recently, so I tried switching it up a little by watching porn, trying different positions, thrusting/air humping, etc but this didn’t fix it. I’ve gone back to my old technique and still can’t seem to get back to where I was.
I know headspace can have a huge impact on this journey, however I’m not stressed, don’t have any mental health concerns, my relationship is healthy. I’ve perhaps got my head in a bit of a muddle over it not working anymore, but I really feel like I’m approaching each session with a really positive headspace.
I hope I don’t have to start my journey again from the beginning, it took years to feel the intensity I was getting. Has anyone else gone through a similar dip in their journey? How did you get out of it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/179vhb4/lost_it/
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I share your experience with the covid practice time and made really good strides during that time off. I also share your experience to a point with the lulls in pleasure but mine doesn’t seem to last as long as your dry spell. My lulls typically have some sort of stress component like changes at work and other things that can have my mind occupied and cause me to not be able to relax effectively. What models of Aneros do you use?
I haven’t lost it to the same extent as you, but when I was living alone I was getting into some crazy stuff. Since I’ve been living with my partner the crazy stuff mainly happens as a couple. I still can have wild sessions alone but there are certain sensations
I haven’t had alone for a couple years (regular hallucinations, out of body experiences). The trade off is equally intense sensations with my partner, just doing things differently.
I was the same like you: Fully rewired up to the point where I could induce Super-Os at will, even without the massager with mere muscle pulses alone. Then my cousin died and I was too depressed to even touch my Aneros. After months of not using the massager and very bad habits, I tried to use the Aneros again but nothing happened. I turned from a master to a total newbie and it took me years to get back on track. Use it or lose it!
UPDATE:
So I tried another session this morning. It lasted a good 1 and a half hours. I really took myself back to basics like I was doing a few years back: really concentrating on regulating my breathing, focusing on the feeling and pleasures around my prostate, and focusing on relaxing my body and the control of my PC muscles. I’ve not had to actively think about these things for a few years, I just pop it in, relax, and off I go and my body just takes care of things itself.
The session was semi-successful. Nowhere near the intensity I used to get but it is the best one I’ve had for a few months.
I had a few pleasurable tingles and a HFDO about 20 minutes into the session. Nothing as intense as previously, but it still felt good. Unfortunately very little happened for the next 20 minutes. I was close to giving up but decided to stick with it and really focused on my breathing (4 seconds inhale, 4 seconds hold, 8 seconds exhale). I eventually started to get really pleasurable tingles around my prostate and anus and I could feel how my breathing was helping these to build, which I found really encouraging. I’ve previously had P-waves that could build quite quickly and I could ride wave after wave, however these were only developing quite slowly and I really needed to practice my patience in case I lost it. Whilst these gradual p-waves did build to something very pleasurable, they didn’t last long and then I would need to wait for them to build up again. Unfortunately after about half an hour, these started to build slower and become less intense and I had no more HFDO other than the one near the start of the session. However, I saw it as a positive step back in the right direction and felt this was a good place to end my session
Some other observations from this morning’s session: Usually my penis will usually drip pre-cum constantly throughout the entire session. Although there was some fluid this morning, it was significantly less than I would expect. Also during sessions, when I’m fully relaxed and immersed in the pleasures, my body shakes uncontrollably and I’m able to just let go of all control and let it do its thing. However in this morning’s session there was very little shaking.
I feel like I’ve got a lot of work to get back to the place I was at a few months ago, but hopefully I’ll be able to get there fairly quickly if go back and remember all the steps I did last time and hopefully will be able to progress quickly.
If you’re now experiencing quite frequent penile cum sessions with your SO… that would absolutely hinder your aneros sessions and the ability to have any type if HFDO’s or Wet O’s…. Your prostate can only produce so much fluid… when I have PIV sessions, I can only start
Prostate sessions a few days later… gotta allow that joy juice to restock!
I’m in a similar boat to you. A few months ago there was a period I felt like I was reaching new heights every other session, and was having different types of dry o’s (calm seas lasting for whole minutes vs. shorter sharp ones that would leave me feeling mindfucked).
Naturally I started doing it a lot more frequently (basically every day), but soon I noticed I began to lose the intensity I had come to expect from my sessions. Pleasure was still there, just very mild. This led me into trying even harder, which led to more dud sessions, which frustrated me even more, and so the cycle broke down.
Eventually I realized the problem is that I was overthinking everything too much, and wanted the orgasms too badly. I decided to approach every session with fresh perspective, as if I was a newbie, as well as space them out every few days. I’ve been doing that for some time now and been noticing an improvement. Still not mindfuck levels (I swear I was feeling orgasmic sensations on the roof of my mouth at one point a few months ago), but good sessions nonetheless.
In short, when people say this whole process is a journey, they’re not kidding. I’ve been doing this on and off for 4 years and have yet to reach super o. Not sure what the missing piece is, but I’m hopeful I will find it some day. Keep trying, be patient, and leave all your previous experiences behind before starting each session. You got this!