Introduction
Of course, it is not a real game! But the thought process behind self-imposed chastity is indeed tug-of-war*. Let me explain……
My side of the rope:
I hold on to the “rope” instead of holding on to my cock! It is really that simple! I want to remain in chastity (and semen retention) for as long as possible. I am now at Day 9 and hope to go at least another 6 or 9 days! I ”pull” on the rope by not edging or surfing at all. I have found from much experience that too much edging, surfing or an anticipation of partnered sexual activity will arouse me too much to the point where the blue-balls are almost inevitable. So I am very careful even with Aneros sessions not to directly stimulate my cock at the same time as my prostate.
Just this morning, I had a very nice milking session with SGX which I have not used in a while. It was a worthwhile session: I expelled more prostate fluid, not precum (I can see and feel the difference. Precum is very slippery and stringy, prostate fluid is not as much so.) These healthy prostate milking sessions seem to keep me satisfied while at the same time not getting me too aroused; hence, a nice balance. I enjoy prostate massage without any blue-balls.
Even if I manage to avoid the male sexual vasocongestion as it is called, I (as well as a lot of other guys in chastity) am still subject to a wet dream if I go too long without ejaculating. I already have had one at Day 12 of SR so I know it is a distinct possibility again. But depending on what I read about NoFap, a wet dream will not count against my semen retention days.
Chastity’s side of the rope:
Of course, chastity always plays the game to win. It “wins” when I ejaculate, either through masturbation (to end blue-balls), or when I just want to end the game. So anything that it can do to get me really aroused or really tired of playing the game will almost ensure a win for the other side. I have learned from experience that just waiting-out the blue-balls doesn’t work for me, and apparently for some other guys as well. I need to masturbate and ejaculate**. As soon as I do, much discomfort (a cramp-like pain in the groin) is cast aside. I feel better almost immediately. However, I have lost the game!
Chastity ensures that I have my nightly erections (NPTs). It ensures that I have at least a semi-aroused cock during Aneros sessions. It knows that, in a moment of weakness on my part, an erection is only a short -step away from an ejaculation. So, frankly, it really doesn’t even have to PLAY the game! It somehow “knows” that it is going to win!
Spoiler Alert!
Chastity WILL WIN every game!
Why does Chastity win?
This is the quintessential question for any male in self-imposed chastity. Obviously, I want to extend my SR days without ejaculation for as long as I am able. Being in Day 9 now, I would like to add another 9 days. Will I make it? I did make it to 26 days once while doing the 21-Day No Ejaculation Challenge! It isn’t easy but it is possible. How did I do it then? It was a while ago, but I remember NOT EDGING AT ALL during those 26 days! Also, no sex or any kind of “cuddling” with my wife. I remember lots of spontaneous erections and precum near the end. What I have added lately to my SR challenges is no porn! I think this helps to settle me down in the arousal department. It seems to be working. Hey, I guess you can call me a “Fapstronaut!” (Note: I discovered that the hard-liners in the NoFap community generally avoid Aneros prostate massage. But as @rumel has noted in a previous post: “I would also argue the use of your Aneros massager for prostate health reasons does not violate the spirit of the NoFap practice, regardless of the pleasurable effects it may have.” I guess I’m in that camp too!)
Conclusion
This chastity game of “tug-of-war” is like trying to play chess with a grand-master. You know you are going to lose. But you try your very hardest to win the game! And perhaps, just by a long-shot, you just might win!
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*”Tug of war (also known as war of tug, tug o’ war, tug war, rope war, rope pulling, tugging war or Afrikaans: toutrek) is a sport that directly puts two teams against each other in a test of strength: teams pull on opposite ends of a rope, with the goal being to bring the rope a certain distance in one direction against the force of the opposing team’s pull.”
** I read recently about Fapstronauts having the same issue with blue-balls. Some things they use that may help me are “cold showers” and/or ice packs. I may consider these with the next “visit”.
PS The “rules” for NoFap are somewhat different from strict chastity. With NoFap, I believe that sex is okay. So are wet dreams. And a hand-job is allowed (as long as it is performed by another set of hands!) What is not allowed is porn (especially internet porn) and self-masturbation.
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Source: https://www.aneros.com/blogs/chastity-is-a-game-of-tug-of-war/