what your PC muscle actually is.

So, I had fun coaching a newbie.

But I think the thing that isn’t quite explained right is that the PC muscle is the same muscle you try to make your boner dance when you’re hard.
That’s what you want to do, thinking of it pushing DOWN onto the toy. And more is not always better. Sometimes a 35% hard flex is better than a 75% push.

The thing is I was trying to have the toy hit it…

The spincter isn’t really all that important in movement, until the involuntaries come. Try flexing LIGHTLY. That might be what you need to take you to the edge. “