I have been enjoying prostate play for about 10 years, and while I enjoy the feelings, I have never experienced an orgasm from only prostate stimulation.
Does frequency of practice play a part? Is there a position that works best? Am I doing something wrong? What is the secret to going from “this feels good” to cumming?
I have a Helix Syn and an nJoy pure wand.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/wer0i9/how_to_level_up_from_pleasure_to_orgasm/
I have found that frequency helps identify feelings faster. For myself I find it helpful to go in cycles of like 3days on 4days off. I don’t think you are doing anything wrong and I don’t believe there is one secret. I would say start fresh and try something new. New routine, new position and new toy if you can swing it. For me the Helix didn’t do much, I had one successful evening with the Progasm Jr and then switched to the life changing Eupho. Sometimes if I’m short on time I’ll try a session in the bath. I have a smaller tub so I lean back and put my feet flat on the wall above the faucet with knees bent. The other big addition I found was nipple play. It took a few weeks to really start enjoying it but now it’s a part of every session.
I’ve never had a super-o, so take this for what it’s worth, however I have had dry and wet prostate orgasms, and (rare) P-waves.
Frequency seems to play a big part for me. The more, the better. My prostate tingles and produces good feelings only if I keep up the play. If I abstain, my return to form session is usually spent uncomfortable and frustrated as I get used to having a toy interested again. My prostate doesn’t seem to respond if I play too infrequently. Full disclosure though, it also gets desensitized if I play too much, so there is a balance to find.
I have also almost had a wet dream after an involuntary month of no masterbation, so there’s that… if you wait long enough, you might get super horny and you might be able to orgasm easily. I’ll never know (hopefully) LOL
Luckily I woke up in time to prevent it, but it was going to happen, and I found myself essentially doing an a-less session in my sleep. If I hadn’t been in a situation where I couldn’t really explore it, I would have really enjoyed it!
So yeah, not enough play for me leads to dud sessions, but long term abstinence can lead to heightened arousal. It’s a balancing act. In other words, yes, frequency definitely influences my libido and sensitivity, and thus my play time enjoyment level and success rate.
Seeking orgasm will make it vanish. Enjoying the pleasure will eventually make the orgasm appear by itself.
It usually goes like this: “that feels good, that feels really really good… Damn that feels incredible… Oh god oh god oh god I can’t believe how good that feels… oh god oh god OH GOD what the hell is happening I’m not controlling anything anymore… what… the… heeOOOOOHHHHH OOOOOOOOOHHHH OOOOOOOHHHHH [*why am I screaming?!!*] OOOOOHHHH GOOOOOOOOOD”
And then it goes for minutes if not hours.
I’ll need to try more frequent prostate play. I’m so busy and home environment doesn’t allow good private time. I’m trying to remember and seem to recall that when I massage my prostate more frequently- the more pleasure I get out of it. Although I need to figure out if it was the D8. When I don’t play as much. I agree it’s like starting all over again.
One thing that has propelled me to breathtaking pleasure recently is bearing down on the Aneros as if having a bowel movement. Bear down gently, relax, breathe deeply. Switch to very light contraction. Alternate between bearing down and contractions while keeping relaxed and breathing. I do all this on my left side with my knees drawn up. This method propelled me to a stunningly powerful Super-O this morning.
The method is patience & relaxation to put the mind into a position that can disengage from its thoughts so that it can feel what is happening right now
Once you’re into the session, it’s important to just exercise the massager steadily back & forth, it’s important to feel what is happening as it’s happening
It’s good to lean your mental attention over to any sensations that are feeling good during the stimulation
If your body is relaxed & the mind too (free of thought) during the session, it’ll be easier to figure out what movements are going to help build your sexual arousal so that you can cross that threshold of transitioning into an orgasmic state of mind
Nipple stimulation as an additional activity can also help with the pursuit of building an orgasm
Moaning once aroused, can also help to build more arousal which helps to cross that threshold required to orgasm