I am brand new to the world of anal play as a whole but have been curious and researching it over the last few years. About 2 weeks ago I decided to finally purchase a Helix Trident and have had 5 or 6 sessions. I am having a good experience so far, and just wanted to compare the path my progress is taking to the average, and maybe get some tips or method critiques. I had been practicing mindfulness meditation and targeting specific muscle groups to relax already so a lot of the principles were familiar to me. It’s taken some getting used to having something up there but I feel like im adjusting well. I feel that “need to pee” and do nothing for a while as I relax my muscles entirely and breathe steadily and deeply. I can envision it sitting there and feel the pressure it provides. In today’s session I decided to slowly, with as little force as possible, flex to a certain point
And today’s session, for the first time, yielded involuntary contractions! It was an interesting feeling but pleasurable, they were rapid and steady instead of “bursty” like i was expecting from what I had read, and if I flexed to a specific strength and held it like that I could keep it going. It was exciting, I have read that that is a sign of progress! Should I be striving for that and to keep it going for as long as possible, or just stay mindful and let it do its thing, relax after a little while, then do it again etc?
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/wqyeyb/brand_new_user_milestone/
For me, what works best is fighting the involuntary clenching by pushing out. The involuntary clenching feels amazing, but forcefully relaxing it gives way to even higher levels of pleasure and eventually the super-o.
Another user put it very nicely. The prostate is a sponge gradually soaking up liquid pleasure (prostate fluid?). When you clench, while it may feel good, you’re squeezing that pleasure out. By continuing relaxing the pc muscle, the sponge, you’re letting it absorb more and more pleasure until eventually it gets too high and you start orgasming over and over and over with higher and high intensity.
At least that’s how it works for me, it seems.
Thanks for sharing. I am a newbie too and had a similar experience to you a couple of nights ago. Unfortunately I had to stop an hour after starting so no idea how it would have ended up.
It felt to me like that I had not “finished” even though what happened was pleasurable. I would have been happy going much longer. It reminded me of the first time I have ever masturbated – you kind of realise something is about to peak and you are not entirely sure whether to let go and see what happens.
This is good progress,just manage expectations. There are often ramp ups and plateaus,it’s normal. If things are happening involuntarily,that’s the point to submit to them and let them call the tune. A mistake ppl make is thinking they need to do something when things start to ramp up. It’s like a game of Dom/sub,instead of doing like a man,you want to be submissive and receive like a woman does.