I’ve been trying prostate play for almost 2 years now and started with Aneros. Throughout my journey, I’ve constantly tried doing the contractions but I never seem to induce involuntaries no matter what. Ive tried mindgasm and that hasn’t really helped much either.
Ive tried the do nothing approach and I don’t really get much pleasure from this. Ive gotten some pleasure from doing contractions but I understand that most super-o’s come from involuntary contractions which I just can’t seem to get.
Has anyone else struggled before? And if so, what did you do that helped you get involuntaries?
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/xefxr8/cant_get_involuntaries_at_all/
Yeah, ive done this 7 ir 8 years now. Never had one of those bodyshaking screaming o’s they show on pornhub.
Its been more of an easy wave of pleasure that has not peaked out. Who can say. Once while clenching with a slight push action and whole rocking the pelvis flexion and extension for a good 45 minutes in a relaxed fashion i had an intense shot of pleasure in my p spot and i leaked clear goo.
But it was more of a sustained tension with pelvic rocking that brought me there.
Side note. To the extent the prostate feels pleasure may help you discover where you are in the journey.
Ive used a few dildos and a fuck machine and found myself to near explosive hands free orgasm. Never crossed over though. But it allowed me to ubderstand how much pleasure my body and p spot can derive from stimulation.
It has helped me explore and enjoy the aneros journey more.
Further side note. Pleasuring myself with dildos has not made me homosexual. As a married straught guy, i still have no desire to have sex with men after playing this way.
So exploring with that wont make you gay. If anyone has any hangups about that.🤷♂️
Oh what helped me get a jump start. I bought a knockoff njoy Pure Wand off amazon. Exploring with that helped my body sense p soit pleasure and waves.
Well from reading the post and the other comment it seems to me you’re thinking about it too much. I fell into the trap of thinking “I understand, I know what I should do”. But it’s more a case of experience. I would do the “do nothing” approach for as long as I could but would be concentrating so much on it, that nothing would really happen. Only a month ago (after years of using aneros) did I relax before a session properly, so that after doing nothing, I got this involuntary twang. Everything clenched for a split second and I remember thinking, Holy shit, that’s new. It had the same mental stimuli as pain, but it was pleasure.
Basically, while I was doing the “do nothing” approach, I didn’t realise that I was actually tensing the tiniest bit automatically. Like, if I grabbed the toy, it would be locked in place. When I got that twang of pleasure, I grabbed the toy just to see and it turns out I could have pulled it straight out. I was totally relaxed.
To be honest when I started with Aneros I had read so much that I thought that I knew it all, but letting it do its thing has showed me that I hadn’t a clue what I was doing. Things started getting insanely better once I stopped hoping for an orgasm or trying to have one. Now I let it do what it wants and I have two to three hours of back to back orgasms. Still no super O, but the most amazing time anyway. Just stick with it.
https://www.aneros.com/community/general-discussion/quick-and-dirty-path-to-the-super-o/
Do nothing produces nothing for a few people. Involuntary contractions are simple enough,contract your pc and sphincter. Hold them until they can’t hold any more and they’ll contract involuntarily as the begin to struggle for grip. You should always have a base hold at all times during a session. This is how they come to be. Keep holding them on at a low level.
Until recently I shared your story. But now things have changed. Purchased a new Aneros, decided to let my body have control (lay on back with feet flat), stay completely relaxed. Basically, do nothing. Anyway This is what I did. SuddenlyI feel this wonderful donut (6 inches around) of pleasure start to penetrate and very slowly go all the way through (like an arrow of pleasure) and up my shaft to the head.
It was AWeSoME!
I think you’re concentrating too much on trying to get one specific reaction. This is going to kill your ability to notice anything else going on or truly enjoy anything else that arises. Just go with whatever your body presents. Stop trying to get one specific thing to happen. And if good feelings arise don’t try to rush over the finish line to orgasm. The build up to a prostate orgasm is much longer than the build up to a traditional one. It might feel like you’re about to cum for a while (minutes) before you actually cross over the point of no return to orgasm. Even the crossing is stretched out in time. So just let any pleasure you feel ride out to it’s conclusion.
More specifically though for you though, I guess I’d want to know how long you’re doing each session, how long you’re trying one technique before moving on to another, and what positions you’re using. I’d suggest having each session be at least an hour, and giving any one technique or position at least a half hour before trying something else or changing positions. For me for instance, I never felt anything while lying on my back with my feet flat even though it seems to be the most common position people talk about. I originally laid in my right side with both legs tucked a little. Find a position that works for you. Try them all.
It might also be time for a different toy if you haven’t tried one for a while. My most recent breakthroughs came when I got a new toy. It unlocked a new level in me and now I can go back to the old toys and get just as much pleasure. I was incredibly surprised about that.
I don’t know if you’re using porn or not but IMO it’s totally fine to use porn to keep sexual thoughts on your mind and increase how turned on you are. The important thing is to focus more on any feelings that arise than the porn once they occur. Though the porn can enhance the pleasure if it’s particularly hot for you.
Just don’t get caught up on one specific thing. There’s like 50 different ways to orgasm via the prostate and they all come with different feelings and different body reactions. So stay curious about whatever you’re feeling because it may turn and twist and take you one a new awesome path. And don’t be eager to get to the end of that path. Like I said, the build up takes a long time before you actually orgasm.