Even if I’ve abstained for several days, the initial arousal kind of runs out and so does the sensitivity. If I start to watch something arousing in the second half of the session, that reignites the arousal/sensitivity and often I have the more intense feelings during the second half when I’m using porn. That said, I’m yet to have an O, so I’m sure my sessions can be improved. Maybe audio could be the way to go?
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I would recommend abstinence from porn of any and all kinds. Just be as one with the device, rocking your prostate. Relax fully, enjoy the very small sensations.
Doing normal house stuff with devices in works well for me, especially with new devices. It removes all the problems, like porn, arousal, relaxing. You forget about it all until you need to lay down (when you feel tingles).
I agree with abstinence beforehand seems to do little to nothing. Days, weeks, even a month once, nota.
Good luck, happy stimming.
I can relate to this. Had a session today and I was most aroused and things were feeling real good while reading “slutty confessions” on Reddit but the challenge was then to capitalize on that arousal and those feeling a which proved to be tricky as my attention was still on holding the iPad, and flipping between confessions. Seems like there may be many ways to skin this cat but figuring out what works specifically for you is the hard part. Will try wearing it for routine tasks next and see how that goes.
You don’t have to – but it’s a distraction that’s best avoided.
A slideshow of static images is the most I use and usually I just don’t bother.
Sort of a case of needing to focus on the sensations from the prostate and Aneros and looking at porn tends to make me think of penis related activities. Just my experience.
Yes. Use your mind, young padawan!
I’ve had mixed results, both while watching porn and while using other methods of creating arousal. I find that I at least need some sort audio, because otherwise I’m too distracted by other random noises. If you want to try audio, I recently came across an app called Dipsea, which basically has erotic audio plays. They’re target audience seems to be women, but they have a good mix of b/g, g/g, and b/b to cover whatever you’re into.
I also want to say that, although the advice is usually to abstain from porn and really focus on the aneros and what you’re feeling, I’ve found that sometimes the opposite has worked better for me. I’ll start watching some porn and moving the aneros and exploring what feels good, and then i just focus on the porn and just do what feels natural without thinking about it. This way I’m letting my body guide me to what feels good without being hyper focused on it, and I’m not chasing the O.
Think if it this way. When you want to just watch some porn and have a wank, are you hyper focused on what you’re doing? How much you’re squeezing, how fast you’re stroking, where you’re putting the most pressure, etc? Or are you just doing what feels good without thinking about it? Getting to this point with the aneros has actually given me some my best results. I’ll start out deliberate with what I’m doing and then try to just let it happen naturally.
I feel like I’m in the same situation as you! I find myself constantly trying to change videos clips as my arousal and prostate pleasure start to fade.
I have had decent success achieving HFWOs in sessions wile sober (No THC). I have now discovered how much better it feels while on edibles. Although the sessions feel way better and I feel like i am getting better with practice, I am not able to achieve an orgasm yet (wet or dry).
Like you, I’m thinking that the porn is a distraction so i have decided in my next session to try using no porn with just some erotic audio in my ear buds. Hopefully it works, either way it’s fun!
Been using porn with Aneros (and aneroless sessions) for close to 20 years now and it hasn’t been an issue. I have an amazing orgasms for hours. It does help with arousal.
Ik this post is a month old but i wanna chip in! Idk what experimentation you’ve done in the meantime, but maybe i got half of an insight for you, since p-gasms come easy for me.
What’s always worked for me was extended abstinence and no porn. The lack of stimulation and ~2wks of not cumming is the easiest lazy method for establishing a baseline arousal level for a session, in my case. Legit involves doing anything else or nothing at all…besides walking around horny af…dealing with the blue balls until that goes away
Typically, the body will follow where the mind goes, but, for this activity, perhaps the roles are reversed. Porn may be too distracting. I believe that the mind and body have their own arousal levels, and you may not be letting your body build up its arousal enough. Grain of salt or whatever
Women making sex noises, sounding beautiful, gets me going, but i wouldn’t recommend it if you can’t have p-gasms yet. Too distracting. There are a couple jokes about muting women in there but this is reddit.
Imho, the focus on arousal levels should be shifted to DOING YOUR KEGELS and picking up on subtle twinges of pleasure w/ a toy in while relaxed. That’ll take you farther than porn, methinks
If you find girl/girl porn arousing, you could you try watching that. That can take your focus off of thinking about penis stimulation, but still having arousing sights and sounds playing during a session.