Prefacing this by saying I do not judge those who use porn in anyway. I’m a recovering porn addict of 20 years. Never got to the point where I had PIED or escalation to seriously taboo or illegal content but definite impact to my ability to become aroused outside the bedroom (i.e. by myself). I’ve been pornfree for nearly 6 months and before my last relapse in June I was porn free for 2 months. So 2022 has been a good recovery year and the one that I think will serve as the foundation for long term permanent porn abstinence.
Anyway, I’ve been using the aneros off and on for the past four years. I can count on one hand the number of times I feel like I’ve gotten even remotely close to a super on and two of those times has been in the last month. So I have a renewed interest in practicing this but obviously so many years of penile-focused ejaculatory orgasms to porn has made it very difficult to tap into innate arousal and experience a lot of success. My routine is usually to put my device in and do nothing for about 20 min other than deep breath and focus on lowering heart rate. I’ll then do some light contractions and try and differentiate between my different muscle groups. Lately I’ve been trying not to rely on any mental fantasy but it’s usually required to get me started with some involuntaries. At that point I’ll stop fantasizing and try and focus only on sensation and let my body do the rest. This is where I’ve had the most success and experience what I think are p-waves. But eventually I lose control of my breathing or try and maintain the right level of muscle contractions and lose everything. Eventually my involuntaries start to feel kind of one-dimensional I.e. I feel them only in one muscle group, usually my rectum and it will take me a awhile to get back to where I was.
All this to say, I’m curious what others’ experience has been who also are recovering from porn addiction and whether or not it sounds like I’m on the right track.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/zuc0ly/any_porn_addicts_here/
I find that p play is a good way to break a porn addiction. I used to always watch porn when jerking off. It helped getting aroused and in the mood. Watching porn when playing with my prostate is very distracting and I just entirely stopped using it.
Fellow recovering porn addict here. Just over a month clean. PIED being a major concern to my current relationship. P-play has been the catalyst that started my recovery. I’m still very much in the experiment and learning stages to see what works and what doesn’t. My biggest hiccup so far is I’m having trouble keeping my body relaxed. Making progress in this regard, but it’s slow going. The involuntaries I can induce with only my imagination and I find with my sphincter contracted at 30-40% and a light hold on my PC and reverse PC muscles( that’s kegel muscle to stop pee, and reverse kegel to relax the urinary tract to ease urine flow) is my optimum setup for p-wave induction. When conditions are right, the involuntaries will come in constant waves in a semicircular motion. The hardest form of erotic media I consume is from r/gonewildaudio and honestly I feel that I make better progress without it. I made a positive discovery last night in my albeit short, toyless session in bed. I find that once involuntaries begin, I can unfocus my mind and observe the pleasure building. By merely observing, these sensations build into p-waves and I start to feel closer to orgasm. I believe this method will be my foundation moving forward.
Prostate play requires the right mindset to achieve orgasm, porn or any other distraction is counterproductive to achieving the focus required.
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Yes I’m a porn addict who just relapsed, but Aneros has been a tremendous help on my journey so far. I’m not in dry O land yet, but I can consistently get what feels like pretty dam close, and am able to end my sessions without a traditional ejaculation.
I’m not sure your experience is related to your former addiction. And it sounds like your on the right track. There’s nothing wrong with fantasizing! In fact it’s perfectly common, and if it helps you get aroused then it’s a good thing so long as they don’t completely overtake your ability to feel your body.
Losing control is something I feel to also be a good thing. It means that the pleasure is essentially making your body wrestle control from your mind to continue/intensify that pleasure, even if your mind doesn’t like the idea of giving it up. Obviously that’s an anthropomorphized description but hopefully you get what I mean.
Similarly, the change in your involuntaries isn’t a bad thing either. In my experience it’s what’s leading up to the “next level” of pleasure, so to speak. Think of your pleasure like a set of stairs, where for a while it may increase linearly, or maybe exponentially, but ultimately it’s still a normal staircase. When this happens, it’s kinda like suddenly walking up a spiral staircase. It’s different, but you’re still going up, if that made sense.
All in all, it seems like you’re doing very good, but are worrying a little too much about what you’re feeling (and more so what you’re not feeling), and that’s preventing you from simply enjoying the experience.
I’m curious about this too. I think I’m a bit of a porn addict and have been using aneros on and off for about 3 years now. I am desperate to get over the edge, which I know is also hindering me from doing so. Mindset is so different, when I’m watching porn I’m excitedly getting to the edge and backing off, getting to the edge and backing off. Feel like I’m hammering porn into my brain as hard and nasty as possible because that’s what feels good. So when I use aneros I’m really struggling to detach from that approach and relax. It’s like I’m not allowed to even think about the end goal or it won’t work, but obviously I’m doing it to reach that goal.
I’ve been in pretty Euphoric states with it (ears ringing, heart pounding, involuntary twitching/thrusting) and its so infuriating at times when I recognise its going in the right direction but recognising it and getting excited by it is what kills it. Almost feels like more and more pressure when it starts because I know I usually ruin it and then get disappointed when I ruin it again. I become super conscious of myself, and try to micro manage it by relaxing parts of my body that are tense, and trying to focus on regulating my breathing etc. But then sometimes I’m obviously too forceful with it that I stop focusing on enjoying the feeling completely (almost like I’m trying to shun it?).
I try and do this with Helix Syn or Eupho. I’ve noticed over the years that after a long try with these it can be incredible to then switch by jamming my Progasm in – the thickness and cooler temperature of it has given me a nice hard second wave of pleasure almost instantly before a few times. But I wonder now if it is counterproductive actually because it still hasn’t pushed me over the edge, and I feel like I now know that if I’m at the point that I’m craving the Progasm then I’m failing and it’s the last resort. I have no doubt that I’m overthinking all of this now tbh.
When there is a lull in ‘progress’ in a session, I notice I often try to pump it up by fantasising about really obscene pornographic situations but obviously this doesn’t really help in the long run. I used to watch and listen to porn when I used aneros in the early days but almost always this only ended in me sperming the normal way. The feeling, I remember, is that a stop or regression in progress toward orgasm ultimately becomes unacceptable so I get impatient and frustrated and then sperm normally.
Any advice? (If anyone wants to discuss privately also, feel free.)
For at least a minority of people who experience compulsive porn ‘addiction’ along with difficulty in tapping into innate arousal and the slow subtle effects of the aneros, part of the problem may be undiagnosed ADHD. Hold this idea lightly though. There’s lots of individual reasons, so I don’t want to nudge anyone in the wrong direction. But for someone with ADHD, (it’s a spectrum), you might find it a bit harder than average to manage a healthy relationship with the fast dopamine rewards of porn and penile orgasms, and you might find it similarly a bit harder than average to cultivate the mindset of steady gentle attention that’s needed for using the aneros. If this is true for you, this isn’t just “bad news”. Whilst the barriers might be higher on the journey of rewiring, the rewards of that rewiring may be more profound.
I can reach HFDO and Super Os without porn, but it is soo much easier and enjoyable to do it while watching porn.
I watch A LOT of porn, when playing with prostate, when edging, when pumping, so it’s probably around 10 hours a week. But I’m in a heathy relationship (she knows), i spend time with friends, hike, lift, and am on a lifting team, and the porn i watch is pretty tame, mostly just solo women stripping so i don’t think it falls into addiction.