Hello everyone,
I’m writing in regards to a dry spell with my aneros use. Almost a year ago I achieved my first and only truly successful sessions (involuntary, powerful, indescribably dry orgasms for hours on end, they felt similar to penile orgasms but deeper and just so much better). Some background that makes this situation complicated is that when I achieved that session I did so rather unconventionally. Most people on here talk about involuntary twitching causing the toy to stimulate the prostate which leads to orgasm. However, that night, the way I got there was by repeatedly flexing my pc muscle and hitting my prostate over and over for some time until suddenly I wasnt flexing anymore and the toy was fucking me. I’ve tried to do this again but it doesn’t happen. I’ve tried doing nothing, tried sustained long flexes, porn, no porn, weed, no weed, and it simply won’t happen. Any advice on getting back to achieving dry orgasm would be so helpful.
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My best advice is to not chase that orgasm you had a year ago. Try not having any expectations, relax and just enjoy the journey. Your brain is a large part of the process and can play tricks on you. Abstaining for a few days also can help waking up your prostate. Good luck!
I think you just need to keep trying. I’ve had sessions that blew my mind when I was laying there doing literally nothing. It’s just a matter of setting zero expectations, and trying. That’s all you can do. It’s easy to get frustrated, but that is only going to work against what you’re trying to do.
Something to try… take a decent break from it for a month or so. When there’s a good time to try again, sort of… spring it on yourself. Don’t over prepare, don’t think about it a lot…. just pop it in with some lube and lay there. It might surprise you.
Hope that helps!
Relaxing and just letting things happen on their own is key with the Aneros. Involuntaries have never worked consistently for me. I usually will either just grind my hips to move the Aneros or contract my PC muscles. Some other things you could try are extended abstinence from penile orgasm to reset and rewire your system. Try different Aneros toys. I usually like to use 2-3 different ones during a single session. My preference is enough weed to relax me. And start with just some erotic binaural audio and maybe sprinkle in a little bit of porn every so often if you can’t go without visual stimulation. Porn usually distracts from focusing on the pleasurable feelings.