Problems having normal orgasms?

So, I’m in a kinda relationship and since a few weeks she and me are having sex.
I noticed something weird: before I started using Aneros-toys I just had to tighten the kegelmuscles and I was on my way to a normal wet orgasm. Recently I noticed that, especially if somebody else is source of the stimulation, another set of muscles tighten up, but that way I can’t cum. First time I thought “oh hey, maybe this helps with a dry-o” but sadly it just ends in frustrating her that I haven’t cum in 10mins or more. So if thats because of the rewiring I’m stuck in between now?

Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/13prlo9/problems_having_normal_orgasms/

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  2. Can’t say if that is because of rewiring. I don’t know the solution because I don’t know the problem personally. Maybe try relaxing? For you’re partner, explain it to her. If you are having a good time why should she be frustrated that you haven’t ejaculated? If the roles were switched and she couldn’t cum and you got frustrated, that would be unfair. So she should be fair to you and give you time to sort things out without being frustrated. Orgasms aren’t the be all end all of sex, and some people don’t have them but have a wonderful time anyways.

  3. Perhaps your pelvic muscles have become too tight. Look into pelvic floor relaxation exercises, especially belly breathing.

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