Straight bros using Aneros – experience & tips ?

Hi,

I have been exploring with the Aneros MGM for almost a month now. I’ve had approx 4 sessions, never got to the super O but definitely improved relaxation, middle/lower muscle contraction and now I get to have pretty good hands free orgasm.

One thing that is still difficult for me is keeping focus / arousal thougths. I can watch porn and get super hard, then when I put the Aneros, I go soft – I usually like to have sexual thoughts related to the feeling I’m getting but here, its a bit tricky lol. I’m mostly straight (a bit curious/bi with experiences in the past but never anal). So far I’ve gotten aroused thinking of m4mw thoughts but get confused/overwhelmed with other thoughts forcing theur way in my head…

Question for straight guy:
1) what is your trick to get horny while having Aneros in your butt ?
2) any tips on how to maximize pleasure ? (Do you do it when wife/girlfriend is home ?) – I smoke weed before and it helps, but I get sooo in my head and start overthinking. I know prostate play is physical and has nothing to do with sexual orientation…but would like to hear a straight’s opinion on this.
3) how did you get to relax mode ? I’m trying Mindgasm, but everytime, I start focusing to much on technique and movement as if I’m in a yoga class or something lol 😅
4) how the hell can people keep both pc muscle and anal muscle contracted for more than 30 sec ? When I do, after 30 sec, I’m no longer sure if both are contracted at all or contracted as strong… and when I force my self to keep them contracted, my body starts shivering (not in a good way, lol it shivers just like when you go for a 2 min planking exercise – like my body wants it to stop) – also not sure what is 20%, 50% , 100% – I mean, should I go strong until it really hurt to consider a 100% level contraction ?