First of all I’m not here to tell you what to do, but I have a strong feeling these tips will work for more than just myself. Excuse me if my thought organization is all over the place. This is a draft and I was just excited to post it asap.
* Relaxation and proper breathing is important. It’s a good idea to take up meditation if you want to improve on this and meditation is useful for much more that just this actually (same thing goes for cardio and resistance training). If you’re constantly in a daze, you’re in for a long game. If you’re the deathgrip type you’re also in for a long game. I do some meditative breathing while in an alternating cold and hot shower. Any impulse to jerk backward from the water being too cold or too hot is taken note of, to which I relax completely into it as a response. Shower temperatures are regulated, and they aren’t hot enough to burn or cold enough to freeze so there’s nothing to worry about. Relaxing into it can feel amazing. FORCE NOTHING.
* Do some yoga-like flexibility stretches and be sure to breathe into your balls or even into your toes with every breath. You know, the kind of deep breath that might make you shake/twitch slightly. I was confused at first that I had to pull/push my anus and breathe as two seperate movements; I totally forgot that if you breathe in deeply enough it does so on its own and feels a lot better. If you don’t twitch a little you might be doing it wrong. Relax into the position like you’re trying to fall asleep. See how much you can relax into the position before you fall over, which shouldn’t be hard if you’re in okay shape.