How much pressure on prostate and aneros tab?

Still trying to master this thing and would like communities advice and feedback. So pwaves are happening and aneros is slamming the prostate. You get two results

1. Need to pee feeling due to pressure on bladder
2. Your prostate is so pushed you get hfwo or milking effect

Theoretically you wanna avoid this and let the toy gently massage you until it just continues to massage you on and on to build the orgasm so how much pressure do you need when trying for super o? I feel like if the toy gets sucked in and starts pressing the prostate hard it feels super good but moving away from dry orgasm and super o. Any thoughts and advice on this situation? Thanks!

sensation not as good as before

So I’ve been on this journey for few years and I had my first Super o accidentally while aneros plugged in and sleeping. Woke up and got that full body buzz vibration all over but after that could not replicate the same feeling. However with different models, lube, sessions and edibles I can now regularly get strong pwaves and hfo wet or dry. The issue is that the prostate does not feel as good as before. At first it was like shock tingling feeling whenever prostate was massaged. Now it just feels like meh but only get really exciting when nipple play is involved. The prostate vibrates but maybe I’m used to it? And is not that pleasurable. Anyone lese having this issue? I feel like pwaves are coming and going but cannot build up to have constant orgasm state like when super o happened. Any tips or advice? Thanks.