Author: goldenboy

“Is This A Dance? Is This A Race?”

I was thinking about all the sexual things I do, except for actual (p.i.v.)* sex. Do they all have something in common? Yes they do—-almost all of them involve some sort of “dance” around——an ejaculation!

Thinking about it, all the Aneros sessions, all the prostate play, all the pseudo male chastity play really has one goal in mind: ejaculation! Ah, but it is in “dance” that it all becomes worthwhile, almost like an art form! The idea is: how far can I go without ejaculating? How much stimulation can I endure before I have to blow the load?

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How far can I go? Here, I am referring to the practice of semen retention. For those guys that have never tried it, I would recommend it. It is a way of boosting your overall sexual response to any form of stimulation. Even by itself, just the practice of withholding semen will boost your testosterone level by almost 50%! You are sure to feel the results; I sure do! But one caveat—blue balls! I can get them, and usually do, after about 7 days of SR. For me, this “dance” ends and another one starts.

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“Horny and Desperate”

Introduction
I was online reading and watching videos about guys locked-up in chastity cages and one phrase that caught my attention was “horny and desperate”. It seemed that this guy was locked-in his cock cage and he was not the keyholder. He had an erection inside his cage and wanted to ejaculate so desperately. He tried and tried stroking and masturbating his cage but was unsuccessful. He became very frustrated to say the least!

Similarity
I decided to sleep in my XO cup overnight. Since I am now at Day 7 of semen retention (SR), I am feeling more frustrated that I have not yet ejaculated. I had a very strong erection within the cup overnight and was squirming-around on the bed close to the PONR. I guess you could say that I too was desperate for an ejaculation, sort-of like a wet-dream. But it was not to be and I became very frustrated.

I went to lie-down on my sofa and started to listen to some erotic chillout mixes. Very nice indeed! I changed from my XO cup to my ARMR all-cotton jockstrap. This strap is very tight and supportive and has a wide, 3” waistband. So it feels very good. It also has a cup pouch. Sure enough, I began to fondle my package beneath the pouch and, secretly, I wanted to ejaculate. But the frustration came back when the cup found its way into the pouch! I became more desperate by the minute! Read more »

“Portable Chastity”

Background
I decided to sleep in my Mueller cup overnight. When I awoke early this morning, I wanted to chill with some relaxing music. I set myself up on my sofa, put on headphones and started listening. At some point, I wanted to remove the cup and just relax in my PJs. So I did….

Thwarted by the Cup
When I settled-in wearing only my PJs, of course my hands began to wander. As sure enough, they found my rising cock and began to play. Since I am only in Day 4 of semen retention, I did not want to run the risk of ejaculating so soon. So what did I do? I took the cup out of the jockstrap and placed it over my PJs and my groin! And with my hand holding the cup, I was unable to continue the stimulation on my cock! Problem solved!

Waking-Up
At some point, however, I must have dozed-off. When I woke-up again, I could not believe the erection I had. It was so strong and I began to lightly “pump” the cup. Oh that feeling of being near the PONR was so strong, I honestly knew that I could ejaculate at that point. But I held-back, and kept the cup in place with my hand until the erection began to subside. At one point, I remember placing my hand inside the pouch of the jock and that was stimulating in itself! Read more »

“Wear Underwear? You Can Wear A Cup!”

Background
I am only in Day 2 of a new “run” of SR and I slept almost through the entire night without wearing a “chastity cup”. Towards morning, I noticed that I was “grabbing” my swollen package a little too much. I couldn’t believe how stimulating it felt, but I wanted it to stop! And that’s when I got the urge to put-on my SD carbon cup and quench the fire!

The cup goes on easily, like putting-on some underwear. And as soon as I had it on, I had a great relief knowing that my “private package” was again off-limits to my wandering hands. That is the essence of male chastity, whether by an athletic cup or a more traditional cock cage. The feeling is the same.

Male Chastity
Male chastity is not as much about a sexy, stimulating feeling (although that is a great side-benefit!) It is about control. In particular, in my case, it is about someone (or something) being in control of my sexual response, in particular, my ejaculations. When that control is given-up, strange things happen. At once, I am not in control of my ejaculations. (Yes, ultimately, in this game-of-one, I am). But temporarily, I have given up that control to an inanimate object. And that object I can wear! That hard piece of plastic, perfectly shaped for my male anatomy, cradles and protects my package perfectly! If I play by-the-rules, I can’t cheat! Read more »

“At Day 7, Anything Can Happen!”

Introduction
I made it to Day 7 of SR and I slept in my Mueller “chastity cup” overnight. It could be a coincidental T-thing, but I seemed to have multiple erections during the night. Towards morning, I was awakened by the usual “PONR” feeling within the cup. But this time, I felt like I was further-along towards an ejaculation. Somewhere deep in my mind, I knew that an ejaculation was forthcoming. But I didn’t know when and where. I must have stayed in this realm for perhaps 20 minutes or more.

Binaural Listening Session
Still erect within the cup, I wanted to augment the PONR “feeling” by retiring to my comfortable couch and start listening to some binaural beats for orgasm and ejaculation. I was ready for both. The one I selected (and the one that worked) was:

“DOUBLE ORGASM – COME TWICE – Binaural Audio Stimulation – Hands Free Beats + Isochronics Tones”

I listened twice to this 14-minute gem; the first one got me wet with precum and the second one finished me off. I almost didn’t need my hands to finish the job! But towards the end, I was so ready for the ejaculation that I “helped” to accelerate it! Man, it felt ever so good to cum!

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Note (from WebMD.com):

“Erections depend on testosterone, but the relationship between the two is complex and not fully understood. Some men have healthy erections despite testosterone levels well below the normal range.” Read more »

“Not Into Male Chastity? Be An MLB Player!”

Introduction
I sometimes wear a cup supporter to refrain from masturbation and ejaculation, usually when I am regularly practicing semen retention (SR). But there are other times when I just like the fit and feel of the cup against my groin. During those times, I like to envision just being a regular guy and perhaps an MLB player. Of course, most MLB players need to wear a cup, either in a pair of compression shorts or in a jockstrap. I don’t know what brand many of them wear, but I would believe that Shock Doctor is a regular contender. So too could be Under Armour, Nutty Buddy and some others.

Are the MLB players into male chastity? Probably not! But they all experience the satisfaction of knowing that their precious “family jewels” will be protected in any circumstance out on the field! So during every practice, every game, even every World Series (!) you can be sure that those guys on the field will be wearing their cups!

Fantasy
Now how does all this talk about baseball players and cups factor-in to my practice of male chastity? I believe it is just to draw a comparison between something completely normal and something with a more sexual “flavor” to it. After all, it is exactly the same “hardware” we are both wearing. Nothing more and nothing less. But it is in the interpretation of their use that we differ. I can pretend to be an MLB player once-in-a while, can’t I? If I’m not into baseball, then I can become an NHL or an NFL player who wears a cup. We are all men and we all have our “goods” to protect! So choose your sport and go for it! Read more »

“SGX Classic: It’s An Anal Thing!”

Introduction
I decided to have a session early this morning with the SGX. This model I believe is no longer available on the Aneros site. I do like it’s smaller size and its performance. Let me explain…..

Session
I lubed-up and started the session. Because the SGX (and the MGX) have a ribbed, tapered stem, these Aneros models stimulate not only the prostate, but the anus. This morning’s session began with some anal “quivering” that was unmistakable. Sort-of like an auto-f**k but concentrated in the anus. And those anal quivers get re-directed up to the prostate through the body of the SGX. What a potent pairing! For a while, I really felt like I was either on the way to a Super-O or a HFWO! There was absolutely no discomfort from either the body, the stem or the P-tab on this massager. I could probably have continued the session for much longer than the actual 25 minutes.

Conclusion
I never discount the size of any of the Aneros prostate massagers. My favorite (and go-to) one now is the HIH 950 which is deceptively small. But don’t let it’s small size fool you! It is quite a capable performer! Next in line is the SGX; designed differently so it stimulates more than just the prostate. As I have noted before, all of the Aneros massagers have their own “signature” —- some provide more (and deeper) direct stimulation of the prostate while others (like the SGX and MGX) also work their magic on the anus. Whatever your preference, there will be an Aneros that will carry you to orgasmic bliss! Read more »

“Chastity Cup Enhancement”

Background
I decided to sleep in my XO “chastity cup” overnight. When I awoke around 4 AM, I was greeted with a nice, firm erection and a PONR feeling caused by the cup. Wanting more, I decided to put-on my Shock Doctor compression shorts (designed for the Ultra Pro Carbon cup) on TOP of the XO supporter. When I did that, I was greeted with an overpowering groin compression and a PONR feeling that I couldn’t achieve just wearing the jockstrap by itself. After about 15 minutes, my erection began to subside and so did the PONR feeling.

Use of Compression
I find that using a compression short on top of a cup jock (or even a regular jockstrap) is a worthwhile enhancement to the pleasurable groin sensations. Not only are the feelings magnified, but the extra layer of “protection” means that I can’t see or even feel my male package through the double-layer of support.

Conclusion
Since I am only in Day 3 of SR, I have a way to go to start anticipating another ejaculation. I would really like to extend the next one to perhaps 10 days. Time will tell if I have to cope with the “blue-balls” once again! Read more »

“This Cup’s Not Made for Drinking….or Touching!”

Introduction
Of course, I am referring to a “chastity cup” or “groin cup*” as it is known. I decided to sleep in my Mueller cup overnight; I am currently in Day 6 of semen retention (SR). I knew that this cup would provide me with much “comfort” and stimulation overnight. I was very right!

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I awoke several hours later with a raging, throbbing erection within the cup. As I noted before, the inside of the pouch and cup places some direct pressure on my frenulum, causing me to feel close to the PONR. This was no exception last night; with every “throb” (which I could not control), I felt ever-so-close to the PONR and an ejaculation! This feeling went-on for perhaps 30 minutes or more. It is ironic that although the cup is made to prevent ME from touching my cock, it actually DOES touch my cock in its own way. That feeling it provides is much akin to a slow, erotic edging session with a partner (since MY hands are not involved with this activity). The upside to this is that as I get closer to the PONR, I can feel my prostate being engaged and energized, ready to ejaculate! Oh, what a feeling!

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I have purposely avoided Aneros sessions as of late, but that does not mean that I do not feel my prostate inside me. Of course, the prostate is always involved in ejaculations and last night’s foray into my male privates gave my entire ejaculatory system a workout, including my prostate, and feeling every part the man that I am! Read more »

“That Awkward Period Between Flaccid and Erect”

I haven’t had Aneros sessions in a few days, but that doesn’t mean that I do not experience any prostate pleasures. Let me explain…..

Like all other guys, I have nightly erections (NPTs). Sometimes, I am still partially erect and I get the urge to play with my package. Usually, I can do this if I am not wearing a “chastity cup”. Now this activity normally doesn’t precipitate a full-blown erection but it still feels deliciously erotic. Somehow, my cock seems to “know” that I will not reach the PONR and thus there will be no ejaculation. So a rock-hard erection is not in order for me. But in the meantime, all that playing-around seems to get my prostate energized, like it can be “ready” for an ejaculation if so prompted!

I call this an “awkward period” since if I completely stop the play, I will become flaccid again. But if I continue the stimulation, I will continue to prompt my ejaculatory system and that feeling can only intensify; how far it goes is up to me.

Interestingly, if I start to “play” while I’m completely flaccid, that usually does not cause an erection per-se’. It is only when this occurs near an NPT that I can initiate one. Interesting….

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