My husband has mentioned on numerous occasions that he is open to the idea of prostate play, although he has never experimented on his own (as far as I know, but I will confirm) and I have virtually no experience either. I bought an Aneros a couple of years ago to use on him and have barely rubbed it near his anus. I have also used my finger a little bit in his anus, but I’m very hesitant because I don’t want to hurt him. One thing that makes this kind of experimentation especially challenging for me is that my husband does not communicate a whole lot during sex and is very quiet and reserved making it difficult for me to know what feels good for him.
This is something I have accepted about him and is not something that I believe he can easily change.
I’m looking for any suggestions/advice on how I might proceed. Is it unrealistic to believe this is something we can learn together or does he really need to experience it himself before I can join in?
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