I probably have < 20 attempts under my belt over the years. Today I was motivated. Reddit gave me the missing piece: keep trying new positions, different toys, new movements, new states of mind. Something will work, we’re all different so there’s different formulae that work for different people
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I finally found my prostate today by feeling around with the small end of the Pure Wand by Njoy. I had been missing it all these years, because I wasn’t aroused enough when looking, and I needed more experience exploring back there.
The feelings were subtle. I was looking at amateur porn from Reddit, and noticed that as my whole body started feeling better and better from looking at (tasteful) porn, the Aneros i switched to started to feel better. My whole body started feeling aroused, and the advice to leave my cock alone was right on the money (shot).
The o is a whole body o, so focusing on one body part won’t work. I had to keep manipulating the wand/Aneros, without thinking into the prostate, just being aware of the changing sensations.
I had to get into a sexy frame of mind, which had a diffuse effect all over. I started feeling more and more aroused to the point where the nekkid ladies I was looking at in the porn started to look really cute and desirable. So I went with this excited appreciation ( thank you anonymous ladies of Reddit who post amateur porn. You’re doing God’s work.)