Why do kegels help if I should be relaxed and let my muscles flutter?

The title. I feel like starting kegels would go a long way but can’t help but feel it seems counterintuitive – if I’m not going to be using a muscle, why does it need to be stronger? Isn’t the point of involuntaries the fact that the muscles get tired and start to flutter? Won’t making them stronger make that harder to happen?

Pleasure, Pain, and Urination – Need Advice

Hi all,

I’ve been using my Eupho Syn Trident for about a week now, and have made good progress. Recently, I’ve started feeling my first involuntaries and p-waves.

Unfortunately, I can’t quite get to a super-O because of an inevitable throbbing pain in my lower right side. Initially, there’s a feeling of fullness and a need to urinate, which I until recently chalked up to fluid buildup in the prostate (a good thing, right?). I focus back on the movement of the toy and while my pleasure grows, the discomfort grows at a faster rate. Eventually, the discomfort turns into constant, throbbing pain (like a bruise after a nasty hit or pulling a muscle, not pleasurable at all), and I am forced to stop the session because the pain is overwhelming any other sensation.

I hobble over to the bathroom and have what seems to be the longest piss of my life – the fluid that comes out is almost entirely clear, and afterwards, the pain instantly goes away (though I’m too far out of it to get back to work).

This usually happens 3-4 hours into a session, so I feel like I’m just taking too long and need to actually pee. I discussed it with my doctor and I’m positive I don’t have some kind of injury/illness, so is there just too much fluid building up in the prostate? Does that mean I’m taking too long? Or am I supposed to just power through the pain? Can you even urinate out excess prostate fluid?