Help for big O + thoughts on njoy wand

I’ve been trying to reach the big O for a few weeks but I’m having a hard time finding pleasure while contracting my kegel muscles. Is there another way to reach it ?

I have a Vector by We-Vibe, a suction cup dildo and an aneros trident. Also do you think i should get a njoy wand ? Looks like i would enjoy it but what do you think about it?