New to this

So I’m new to prostate play, and I want to get an aneros of some variation. I figured the more experienced people on this subreddit would be as good of a place as any to ask some questions.

Any starting aneros to suggest, not a total stranger to things in the ass.

Does (and forgive me if I’m naive) prostate play have any side effects or dangers? I still want to be able to function normally with my wife. I didn’t know if the re-wiring changed that negatively or if it was a positive or a non-factor.

Any specific lube to use?

And advice would be helpful