Category: Aneros blogs

Session 4

Today’s session was better than Monday’s, but still not quite as good as either of the first two. I think the main reason these last two have not been as good is my level of arousal. I think I must have been more aroused the first two times. I was more aroused today than on Monday, and that helped, but I was also tired. I went to bed late last night, I woke up early this morning, and I exercised more than usual. So I think I was a bit drained as well, which offset some of my arousal.

I did a couple things differently this time:
– I used an eye mask to keep out the daylight. That was helpful. I did see light, but more a “seeing stars” kind of light due to the stimulation I was getting from my Aneros in the more intense bits.
– I warmed the lube and Aneros beforehand. That made things more comfortable in the beginning

I began my session more relaxed than on Monday. This was probably partially just because I was tired, but I also avoided thinking about work or other stress-inducing topics and generally tried to remain relaxed an mellow from the time I took my post-workout shower and the time I began my session. This helped me get “in the zone” more quickly. I was able to shut out the outside world and focus on what my body was feeling. The eye mask helped with this as well. Read more »

“Two Great Sessions Even At SR Day 3!”

Introduction
I am only at SR Day 3 but took a chance at not one but two sessions today. One, early morning and the other about mid-day. Here is what happened in each…..

Session #1
I wore my Safe-T-Gard strap with Mueller cup overnight. This first session was with the HIH 950, one of my favorites. I lubed-up generously with Slippery Stuff Gel and got started. Almost from the beginning, I had a strong sense that I was going to ejaculate. I had a lot of fluid (possibly precum?) and distinctly felt that if I continued this session longer, I would have a HFWO. But I stopped-short of that. Instead, I decided to retreat to my comfortable sofa and put on some nice tracks. I selected one on YouTube and when I awoke, I was listening to “Music for the Soul @Enigmatic Mix” and it was incredibly stimulating! Before I knew it, it was about 2-1/2 hours later than when I started! Several times during the “session” I developed a strong erection within the Mueller cup and again, it honestly felt like I would ejaculate.

New mindset for Session #1: Instead of the usual “male chastity cup” I developed a new mindset. My urologist wants to prep me for a procedure and I am to wear a jockstrap/cup for two nights prior to my procedure. This morning ended the second night. I don’t know what this “prep” was supposed to do but it worked! Read more »

What Is Success?

In my previous post, I talked a little bit about how I define success. The session I was describing was not, in fact, all that pleasurable. And yet, I consider it a success anyway. Why is that? What does “success” mean, and how do we define the criteria for achieving it?

I began learning to play the violin almost 2 years ago. At first I learned quickly, because there were many “easy” basic things to learn. Progress felt quick and natural. But before long, my seemingly rapid development slowed. I hit a plateau. I couldn’t get my hands and arms to behave. I practiced the same tunes and exercises over and over and made the same mistakes each time. I didn’t seem to be getting anywhere. In fact, at times it seemed I was moving backward! And so I became very discouraged and frustrated.

Around this time, I read a book called Brain Rules For Baby. There is also a book by the same author called Brain Rules which is more geared toward adults. I read and highly recommend both. The author, John Medina, is a developmental molecular biologist, so the content is science- and data-based, but the books are very accessible and easy to read. Read more »

Session 3

I started my session this morning after exercising, bathing, and practicing my violin. I also checked my work email and went over the more important messages to make my life easier when I got to work. That may have been a mistake, which I’ll get into later.

I lubed up, shooting a little Shibari in as pre-lubrication and applying a dab of Boy Butter H2O on the Helix to ease insertion. I mentioned in an earlier post that I might try this. I’m not sure that the results have been affected by any of the three methods of lubrication I’ve tried. Mobility of the Aneros did not seem limited in any of them. Granted, I have only tried each method once, so it’s hardly scientific. I may try each again and figure out which I prefer.

One thing I think I may try next time is warming the lube and/or the Aneros. The lube was pretty cold and it gave me a bit of a crampy feeling until it reached an equilibrium temperature with my body. Not the most pleasant sensation, and I’d prefer to avoid it in the future. It might have decreased my level of arousal somewhat, and that’s not helpful.

I laid on my back on a towel on my bed, naked except for the glans cover I’ve been using. I thought about foregoing its use this time, but it really does keep the (potential) mess contained, and it helps prevent stimulation to my glans that might be distracting. So I think I’ll probably just continue to use it for the foreseeable future. I pulled the covers over me because the bedroom was cold and tried to relax. Read more »

“I Was All Set To Ejaculate, So What Happened?”

Background
I am currently in Day 9 of SR and quite horny. I slept in my SafeTGard jock (with Mueller cup) the past two nights. Early this morning, I “danced-around” the PONR with a strong erection within the cup. I thought that perhaps I should end this SR string and just ejaculate; it would feel amazingly good! So I went down to my comfortable sofa and tried to find an ejaculation binaural that fit my mood. I was ready to cum.

Action
Believe it or not, I could not find a track that fit my mood! I searched for a good 5 minutes but to no avail. So instead, I settled on some nice sex music which I am listening to as I type this blog. The cup stayed on throughout. Taking it off now would just be too tempting.
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What happened? I’m not entirely sure at this point. It seems that although I had every intention to ejaculate this morning, my body told me otherwise! I don’t have a hint of blue-balls so this ejaculation is not really required. Can I go farther? I guess the answer is “yes”.
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Am I disappointed? Of course, but in hindsight, I remain in chastity and that only helps to ramp-up my arousal level. With this higher level of semen retention, I can feel the effects right down to my prostate.
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When will I be ready? Ah, that is the question for which there is no answer right now. I’ll just have to make my way through the next day or so and see what develops. I do know that wearing the “chastity cup” solidly for the past two nights certainly has helped keep me chaste! Read more »

Session 3

I had my second Aneros session this morning. Let me preface my recounting of it with a few admissions of guilt:
– It was a very long session. I went against the advice of more experienced users who recommended sticking closer to 30 minutes. All told, I had my Aneros in for 3.5 hours.
– It was not actually my second time using the Aneros. I slipped it in one other time between this session and the first as a way of increasing arousal during sex with my spouse. But I don’t really count that as a “session” because I wasn’t focused on the specific sensations the Aneros may have been generating. I wasn’t practicing Aneros.
– Which leads to my third and final confession: After having done that, I was advised by someone to keep Aneros sessions and sex with someone else (or masturbation) separate until I had more experience. I think this advice makes sense and I will follow it in the future, but I didn’t follow it this morning.

They say confession is good for the soul. I don’t know about that, really, but I do know that I want this blog to be as truthful and accurate as possible. Maybe others will learn from my experiences. I hope that I will also learn, both by putting the experiences into words, which forces me to think more deeply about them, and by looking back at the mistakes and successes I have along the way. So yes, at the risk of shame and public recrimination, I will freely admit when I do something that may be unwise or counterproductive. Read more »

“The Soda-Pop Analogy”

Introduction
Well, I made it to another Day 7 of SR! I decided to sleep in my XO “chastity cup” overnight. As expected, I was awakened about 4:00 AM with a strong erection. As I began to dwell on the fact that I felt so good but was unable to masturbate or ejaculate, I became more and more frustrated. (If there is a stronger word, I would gladly use it). I began to think about something tangible so that I could describe the feeling. Here is what I came up with…..

Analogy
The analogy I discovered was that of a soda-pop bottle (like a 2-liter one). With every passing day while in semen retention, the bottle is shaken-up a little bit more. By Day 7, the bottle is violently shaken and all the while, pressure is building-up inside it. The bottle actually gets quite hard from the internal pressure developed. Anyone that has attempted to open a bottle which has been shaken-up in this way knows that a “surprise” is in store for them when they open it! Namely, when the pressure is released, soda comes gushing-out everywhere!

Isn’t this a good comparison to the practice of semen retention? I think so. Of course, the analogy is quite simple: The cap on the bottle is my chastity cup and my practice of semen retention. The shaking is my arousal which comes at regular intervals. An Aneros session while wearing a chastity cup would qualify as well. Removal of the cap is my removal of the cup and hence the desire and yearning and anticipation of an ejaculation. And the gushing-forth, well we all know what that represents! Read more »

First Session

I got a chance to try out my Helix Trident. Here are some of my thoughts from this first experience.

My first impression upon unboxing my Helix Trident was that it was a LOT smaller than I was expecting. I bought the Helix because it was described as having a “Larger head size for more direct pressure on the prostate.” I was expecting something, well, larger. I guess I had no real frame of reference. I admit to being skeptical that I’d really feel much of anything from something so seemingly diminutive. It’s certainly the smallest thing that I’ve inserted in my rear for pleasure other than my finger in a very long time.

I wasn’t sure which lube to use. I know that’s a common question and the answer varies greatly from person to person. For anal sex and for other toys, I really like the water-based variety of Boy Butter. It is a cream or lotion consistency, which I find makes application much easier. It dissolves easily in water, so cleanup is not a problem, but it also doesn’t dissipate, evaporate, or absorb into my skin as quickly as other lubes I have used. However, it also isn’t quite as slick as liquid lubes I’ve used. I find this is a good thing for other anal toys and for anal sex, where some amount of friction (the “right” amount) is actually desirable, but perhaps not for the Aneros, where free mobility is key. So I opted for Shibari silicone lube, which I prefer for my Fleshlight. It’s slicker and runnier than the Boy Butter and is probably a better fit for use with the Aneros. I may in the future try some of both, by first pre-lubing my rectum with Shibari and coating the Aneros with the Boy Butter, just for grins. Read more »

Some History

I first heard of the fabled hands-free orgasm about 10 years ago while chatting on IRC. An eccentric guy I chatted with occasionally claimed that he could have orgasms while receiving anal sex from his partner without any stimulation to his penis, and then afterward could come again while fucking his boyfriend. He took this magical ability for granted, seeming very surprised that I could not accomplish the same feat.

I tried to get him to explain how it worked, but the best he could manage was a vague description of “pushing” somehow while being penetrated. I honestly wasn’t sure he wasn’t just making things up. It seemed too good to be true. Everyone knows that guys can only come once and that they have to wait out the refactory period before they can have another orgasm, right? And climaxing without touching your cock is a fantasy acted out in porn but seldom found in the real world, isn’t it?

That’s what I thought anyway at the time. I dismissed his stories as unrealistic after being unable to get even close to what he described. But I never forgot those stories or the subtle hunger I had to experience those things. Read more »

My First Aneros Purchase

After a lot of deliberation, I have purchased a Helix Trident. It arrives today, and I’m excited to try it! Unfortunately, it’s probably going to arrive after I leave for a brief vacation, so I won’t get to try it out until I get back.

This is my first Aneros toy and I have to say that while I’m hopeful that I’ll be able to experience the legendary Super-O’s I’ve seen described on the forums, I am also fairly skeptical. A lot of the stories I have read have a “too good to be true” or “big fish story” quality to them. But I’m ready to find out for myself, understanding that it could be a long time before I have those kinds of results. But it should be an enjoyable experience anyway, even if I never reach the hands-free Super-O nirvana of legend.