Aneros users blogs and guides
I absolutely love my Aneros! Every session lately has been the best so far. One thing that does get stale though is that all the toys are hard materials. Sometimes I just want something more squishy or jello like in there, and there are no Aneros device like that.
Regardless, what non-Aneros toys do you own? They don’t even have to be specifically for prostate massage, if a toy gives you pleasure, I, and likely a few others here, would love to hear about it!
I have an aneros helix syn and want to use coconut oil as lube but how do I apply it?
Do I put it on the toy or on me and how much do I use?
I’m pretty young (27), and have used the aneros for a few years, never hurting.
However, for the last three weeks, when I use the aneros, it starts ok, but in a while (20 min?) the prostate hurts when I contract. It is not external pain (as in, SKIN pain from the friction/lube), it is internal pain (coming from the prostate). I feel as if it was inflamed or something. I can still achieve pleasure, but it gets painful and prevents me from moving forward. It is not acute, terrible pain, but more annoying pain that gets worse with time.
It doesn’t hurt without the aneros pressuring the prostate.
I used to do it often (every day to every two days), and since last time I waited 3-4 days to see if it improved, but today I tried it again and it hurt again.
I have no other problems (no problems urinating, or getting erections or anything).
Should I wait for a week or more to see if it improves or should I go to the doctor? I am kind of embarrassed to go.
Hi all!
Thanks to advices I’ve read in this sub, I’ve been able to reach those super O’s again and it was incredible. The things I kept focusing on were my prostate, my pleasure, more pleasure, pleasure again, again, more, more… then boom I’m orgasming.
Then this morning, I was supposed to get some job done so no session for me.
Normally.
The aneros in the butt takes some time to prepare it, to lube it, to get used to it, to clean it, etc… So I just thought of I have a few minutes ahead, why not just contact my pelvic muscles and tickle my prostate just like that. With no aneros. Just for a little.
Holy shit! Prostate + pleasure + prostate + pleasure + more pleasure+ more pleasure … and BAM! I’m orgasming. Like crazy. No need to insert anything in my butt. And it took me just a few minutes (vs more than an hour with the aneros).
I guess the toy in the butt can be uncomfortable so your body needs time to get used to it. Here: nothing in the ass means no delay hence super o’s within minutes. And it kept going as long as I wanted it to go. I had multiples, full body, etc… I kept at it for an hour. Then I really had to work so I put a stop to it but oh boy! Now I know what I’ll be doing in traffic jams or in boring meetings!!!
First of all I’m not here to tell you what to do, but I have a strong feeling these tips will work for more than just myself. Excuse me if my thought organization is all over the place. This is a draft and I was just excited to post it asap.
* Relaxation and proper breathing is important. It’s a good idea to take up meditation if you want to improve on this and meditation is useful for much more that just this actually (same thing goes for cardio and resistance training). If you’re constantly in a daze, you’re in for a long game. If you’re the deathgrip type you’re also in for a long game. I do some meditative breathing while in an alternating cold and hot shower. Any impulse to jerk backward from the water being too cold or too hot is taken note of, to which I relax completely into it as a response. Shower temperatures are regulated, and they aren’t hot enough to burn or cold enough to freeze so there’s nothing to worry about. Relaxing into it can feel amazing. FORCE NOTHING.
* Do some yoga-like flexibility stretches and be sure to breathe into your balls or even into your toes with every breath. You know, the kind of deep breath that might make you shake/twitch slightly. I was confused at first that I had to pull/push my anus and breathe as two seperate movements; I totally forgot that if you breathe in deeply enough it does so on its own and feels a lot better. If you don’t twitch a little you might be doing it wrong. Relax into the position like you’re trying to fall asleep. See how much you can relax into the position before you fall over, which shouldn’t be hard if you’re in okay shape.
I managed to derive pleasure from prostate from strong pelvic contractions (contractions that also include stretching legs/hamstrings). And it only ever works during a boner. It always results in penile orgasm.
It feels like reverse fapping. Instead of stroking penis to experience contractions typical for orgasm, I contract pelvic floor myself, imitating orgasm. It causes pleasure in prostate and/or penis.
Rubbing my prostate alone doesn’t do anything. I could as well be rubbing my ear this whole time! Does anyone know where to go from here?
Just a couple of pointers for anyone stuck:
1) My favorite mantra is “my only job is to feel”. It captures the key ingredient that its not necessary to grasp this kind of pleasure, you only have to notice it and open up to it. It also makes it clear that this is not a job or chore. It sounds silly, but often we men seem to treat sex as something you need to be good at, and controlled in approach. This approach is not necessary with the Aneros. It will drive, you are invited to ease your hands off the steering wheel.
2) Don’t Think, Just Be. This one is tricky to explain but I will try. It is often said that sex is all in the head, this may be true but it actually points you in the wrong direction at times. It implies that you must think yourself into enjoying it. While this can help initially, your focus is best used on the body itself. Once you find your prostate and isolate the feelings, try to “be” the prostate, not talk to yourself about how it feels.
3) If you want to jump up a level in enjoyment, let go more. This sounds counter intuitive because you are enjoying the feelings you are having. But trust me, if you let go of the pleasure it may leave briefly but it will return with friends. A good mantra for this is “This feels great, but I don’t need it”. Clinginess to pleasure is the enemy here, allowance of what is present is the best approach.
Hi everyone, so just earlier today I used my Aneros for the first time. It went about as I expected: I was comfortable with it in my body, but I didn’t really feel any pleasure. I know that’s normal for the first few times but I do have a few questions:
Firstly, how far is the device actually supposed to go in? I mean, the toy has [these 3 little bumps on it.](http://i.imgur.com/w4mR6HH.jpg) When I had inserted it what I believe to be all the way, the perineum tab was lightly pressing on the perineum and the device was in up to the narrow part between 2 and 3. Is the aneros supposed to be inserted all the way, past the 3rd bump, or did I have it right?
Secondly, the whole time, the toy felt a bit like it was starting to fall out. Once I had it inserted, laid down and started relaxing/lightly contracting, the toy felt like it was kind of wiggling its way out. So I would push it in a little bit and keep going and it would feel like it was coming out again. I should be clear that the toy never came out or really even came close to it, but it just felt like it was slowly becoming “dislodged” from where it was supposed to be or something. Has anyone else had that feeling?