I made a comment recently about something I began doing in the last two to three months that I got a lot of messages about, and I promised I’d write a standalone post.
That is, using the Aneros in the bath.
Long post ahead!
I’ve been practicing Aneros use for a few years now, and figuring it all out. Mid-2022 I began noticing that I wasn’t actually fully relaxing, even though I would practice the “Do nothing” approach, I wasn’t actually doing nothing. Even while relaxed I would be subconsciously holding a very light contraction the whole time. Once the pleasure would begin, I would totally take over again and be clenching an tensing to try to force the pleasure to grow, only tiring myself out.
A huge leap forward for me was when I began to just try to breath through everything, deep breaths into my belly, so that my stomach rises up. Even actively pushing my belly muscles up. This would free up the important muscles below to do their own thing and huge pleasure would grow. However, when it gets intense, I would still take over and do contractions and end up chasing the pleasure away.
The practice of Aneros for me at the moment is to have discipline and actively try to relax any muscle contractions, no matter how good everything feels. To keep breathing deeply through everything and constantly letting everything be fully relaxed. If a muscle tenses, I try to release it as much as possible. This makes everything insanely intense as it is. So pushing that further and further is my gameplan. Read more »