I’ve made little progress since my last blog. I’ve actually felt some pleasure not in my prostate but in my anus. I’ve decided that since I can feel sensations in my anus I would focus on that since I don’t really feel anything in my prostate. Not until I’m very aroused anyway. Here’s how my session went. I began by taking a hot shower, witch is something I’ve found helps me relax, then after I dried of I lied in bed and did some deep breathing. Then I began caressing my thighs. Then I applied some lube to my anus and gently messaged to relax the anal sphincters. At first I didn’t feel anything so I began focusing on my anus near the opening. That made me more aware of of sensations but I still couldn’t feel much pleasure. That’s when I realized that I had to have erotic feelings if I wanted to feel any pleasure. So I began I set about finding a fantasy that would help. But that didn’t work either so I just lied there and focused on the physical sensations. Then I started thinking of the sensations as pleasurable instead of just there and that’s what did it. That’s all it took. I didn’t have an orgasm and the pleasure wasn’t constant it came and went, kinda like waves. But that’s ok because I enjoyed myself. I guess before I wasn’t able to get of some of those nagging thoughts in my head that prevented me from feeling anything. I think I’ve a great leap but there’s still a lot left learn about myself.
Tag: Prostate
Hummmm
Possible progress?
Fridays session found more of the same. No sensations unless I initiated it manually by massaging the sweet spot but I did something slightly different. Rather than push through the sensations to completion I stopped short and let them linger a second than performed a pc contraction. When I did this the sensation burst from my prostate and flowed over my body. I did this several times. Felt wonderful but did not expand further than that.
Sunday I thought I would have some me time so I joined w/ helix. Turns out she had other plans. Fuck it, I stayed joined and did what running needed to be done. I didn’t have time to feel or enjoy being joined but knew I was getting ‘seat time’. While sitting on the couch several hours later I was leaning against the hand rail on the left side and my knees were in front of me, kinda like side saddle. I reached behind and found the handle/tabs. I started to slide my finger over this in a flicking type motion. The sensation went straight to my prostate. I changed to a scratching across the fabric of my pants. It felt really good. After about 20 minutes I felt the sensation of an orgasm start to build. I kept at it till it went away. This wasn’t strong and didn’t last but mere seconds but showed me I could reach the same feelings without manual stimulation of my sweet spot.
My Sexual Trinity
There are so many aspects to rewiring I don’t know if I can cover them all or provide adequate description of them all. It would be like trying to describe life itself or the meaning of sex. But at three years into this journey, aside from the mental changes and the changes in my sexual outlook, the most significant impact of rewiring on me was my experience of the sensation of sexual pleasure.
By the time I hit my third year of Aneros practice I had been experiencing orgasm and serious sexual pleasure for 30+ years. For me the focus of that pleasure was my cockhead and the first 3 inches of my cock behind my cockhead. Masturbation was a race to the ejaculatory “finish line” and the ceremonious spewing of a rope of semen.
As I described in the previous entry, the rewired me experienced sex in an entirely new way. The two most significant changes in my experience of sexual pleasure were: (1) the slowing down of my sensory systems and the shift in my perception of those sensory systems. The outside world gets shut out; all I can feel or sense is the pleasure inside my body. Everything outside my body ceases to exist, I feel totally isolated and contained inside my skin. As reality fades from my awareness I am transported inside my mind to a state of perfect happiness in a hazy soft idyllic place and (2) my physical experience of sexual sensation expands. No longer is my penis the nexus of my sensations, they are felt across the landscape of my body with particular expression in my cock root and cock slit, my nipples and my anal canal.
“Would You Shake Hands With Gloves On?”
Introduction
While wearing my XO “chastity cup” overnight, I began to dwell on this concept. What do I need to fully participate in an activity? Of course, one generally would not want to shake hands while wearing gloves. But why is that? I began to meditate….
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Feelings
In any activity, one wants to feel immersed in the task at hand. The glove example: one want to feel the other person’s human hand as part of the gesture. It is only natural and normal.
So there are myriad other examples too. Here are a few that come to mind….
[Some of these are of a sexual nature so reader discretion is advised.]
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Wearing a condom for sex – Really? Skin-on skin sexual contact is the epitome of the male/female bonding.
Cuddling while not naked – No way! Is this the way mother nature intended?
Wearing a “chastity cup” for a masturbation session – You kidding? You need access to your erect cock and the personal “touch” of a hand (your own or a partner’s) for fulfillment.
Not wearing a “chastity cup” with a full-blown erection – Not in my book! These types of erections can lead to an unintended ejaculation. If that’s not what is intended, better to wear one!
Not using a prostate massager – Get out of town! Your prostate needs to be properly massaged; a massager like the Aneros gets right in there and does its job all by itself. It needs no other help from you other than some gentle contractions.
Ride 3 – Blog 1
I got my first Aneros yesterday. While I’m not new to prostate toys, I’m new to dry orgasms and am so excited about achieving my first experience!
I’m still learning, first and foremost, how to leave my dick alone but as I lay in bed watching a guy demo his Helix, Cumming over and over and over, I definitely felt as though I was getting somewhere..
I lived myself up and started with a finger, gently massaging the outside of my hole, dipping the pad of my finger in slightly as it opened up to tease my anus further. When I was ready, the Helix slipped in and nuzzled itself up against my prostate nicely, and I began to gently raise my PC muscles for a second or two, before gently pressing my sphincter back down again.. As I did this, gently contracting harden then softer, my dick became rock hard and I began to ooze Previn all over my stomach, through my trail and upcto my belly button.
As I watched the guy in the video climax over and over, inspiring me to keep going, I lifted a huge drop of pre from my slit and smeared it over my right nipple before beginning to gently slide my finger over it – watching my dick pulse and twitch in time to the contractions of my ass.
“A Matter Of Degrees”
Introduction
I have been thinking about this lately. Let me explain it…..
Many things us guys do, particularly of a sexual nature, involve varying degrees of action. Here are some examples:
Masturbation/Edging – I can masturbate forcefully and elicit an ejaculation in probably less than a minute. Or I can take my time, go slowly, and extend the pleasure for perhaps 15 or 20 minutes or more. It is up to me how far I want to go.
Semen Retention – I can practice SR for just a few days as I have done. Or (barring the infamous ‘blue-balls’) I can extend it to perhaps 8-10 days or more. My most recent “run” was to 10 days and I had to end it, not due to ‘blue-balls’ but due to the extreme horniness that was generated.
Male Chastity – I can wear a “chastity cup” all night, or I can wait until I am aroused by a night-time (NPT) erection. The resulting feelings are similar but yet different.
Prostate Stimulation – I can do (and have done) daily Aneros sessions regardless of outcome. Some sessions are short, others are longer. I can do these sessions for therapy, e.g., control of BPH symptoms. Or, I can space-out the sessions as I am doing now. I use my arousal level as a guide to when I feel my prostate is telling me that a session is needed. Usually, those sessions are the best, as I can feel the immediate effects throughout my prostate and perineal area. An ejaculation usually is not required to appreciate all the stimulating effects of prostate massage.
The Road to Rewiring
When I look back at the milestone of my rewiring 11 years ago I now realize that it was a bringing together of the jig saw puzzle of events and experiences from the start of my sexual journey of discovery that began in earnest in my early 30’s with the experiences of the first two years of my Aneros practice. Looking back on it the potential was always there and the adoption of Aneros practice was the key that opened the door. In effect I believe that rewiring brought together the male and female sides of my sexual psyche and forged them into bisexuality.
The first step in this evolutionary forging of my sexuality that rewired me was my participation in a workshop on female sexuality and female sexual response when I was in my early 30’s. My eyes were opened to the deeper more visceral experience of orgasmic pleasure that women have as opposed to men. I learned the inextricable link between a woman’ s mind, her vagina, the visceral sensory presence of her lover (his scent, looks, feel etc), her whole body experience of pleasure, the strategic ingredient of how she feels psychologically at that moment and her orgasm.
First super O
Up till yesterday, I was managing dry o/mini os that would come and go and sometimes chain almost consecutively.
The 2 days prior to this I had sessions that were so pleasurable I didn’t feel the need to ejaculate like I usually do at the end of every Aneros session, I was more than satisfied. So technically at this point I was on day 2 of semen retention which is 1 day longer than my record for years haha.
Last night was different, I was entering new territory. What started out as a typical dry orgasm which spread across the whole body didn’t stop after the usual few seconds but kept getting stronger. It didn’t break or chain into another O, it was a single orgasm that kept going. If a regular ejaculatory orgasm was on a scale of 1, this would be a 1 that grew into a 2 and 3 then 4. It lasted as long as 4 orgasms too.
My body was super receptive and every part of my body felt so aroused. My hands circled from my chest down the sides of my belly and outer thighs but when they caressed the inner thighs, I felt a jolt of pleasure in the pc muscles and prostate. It was automatic and instant. I tried repeating the process like another 7 times and it worked everytime. This never happened before! I was so in tuned and content with my body.
A New Level
The Super-O is such a difficult thing to describe. It always comes across like hyperbole or unreal. It’s like something from the best dream you can think of but when youre having one there is no denying it.
I’ve been wondering intently if there is a limit to the pleasure or intensity and for the past two weeks I had a very good estimate of what appeared to be the limit. What I thought was shattered. I woke up with incredible butt buzz from last nights session. I started to aless and just like last night I was in a perpetual state of orgasmic pleasure with a super-O ever 10-15 mins.
And the I started to play with my left nipple. There was no build up to this super-O it came so quickly and it was deep it felt like my prostate was being sucked like literally someone took my prostate and sucked it like a popsicle and it kept building. I was shaking all through my torso and my toes were curling repeatedly. I started to scream dont stop…and it didnt. It was so explosive. I kept rubbing my nipple and it was as if I was adding to my normal pleasure levels. And then it gradually died down. No crash…its as if it walked away. And left me in a pool of my own sweat.
Rumble in the Jungle
So…just a tad bit about me. I work in the IT industry as an executive. I’m super hands on so the past 48 hours I have been working with my team doing a series of deployments and upgrades to our environment. I was exhausted. So the wife and I went out to get some last minute items for the Xmas party we are hosting at our house. She cleaned up the house so she said no cooking. We went out to a local bar…I had one drink…shit knocked me out by 8pm once I got home. The key note here is that in the past 48 hours…I hadnt done anything from my routine. No kegels…no cool draw…no edging…nothing…
I woke up at 11pm. Nothing out of the ordinary. Opened up Reddit and just laid there.
Well Mr Prostate woke right up and almost immediately I was getting constant pleasure. My prostate was super sensitive to the lightest of touches and it wasnt too long until I was MMOing…like just a constant orgasm that just crashed down on me. I could feel it in the back of my throat. The pleasure was mounting and without warning my entire body tensed up and was trembling the only thing moving was what felt like the softest dildo up my ass. Just gently touching my prostate and sending me into Super-O stratosphere. After a minute I would come down from the high but it was not the crash that would normally happen…it sent me just right back to the edge and kept me there…a few seconds later….full tense again…my prostate begging for a little more speed….a little more push. This went on for the next 45 mins. My back was sweating. I literally had no breaks…I had to come here and write about it.