Hello again!
I have been playing with a helix syn and progasm for about 9 months now with some successes and some frustrations (sometimes some pleasurable sensations, most times not, and one super orgasm: literally mind blowing!)
A couple of weeks ago I opened up to the gf about my prostate play, and she was surprisingly open to helping in whatever way she could! We’ve had a few sessions where we are simply cuddling and making out while I have either massager in and she avoids penile stimulation so that she doesn’t interfere with the rewriting process.
How vital is this? Should she continue to avoid touching my penis if we are playing and I have an aneros inserted? If she does, with that help or hurt my journey to additional pleasurable feelings during my aneros only play?
Off topic fun experience for those still reading: She was giving me a blowjob today (aneros play yesterday) without an aneros inserted, and I started having waves of pleasure (mini-o?) from my prostate at one point without ejaculating!!!
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/6y3ptt/question_regarding_penis_stimulation_fun_little/
It sounds like you are well on the way to consistent super O’s and you are also well aware of avoiding penis play and the aneros. I believe there is no harm in ending an aneros session with an orgasm. The road to the super O doesn’t involve the penis but you also have to keep your partner involved. Learn some tantra and meditation so you both can travel down the path of higher level orgasms together.
At this point I would just stick to your aneros, larger toys can be fun but they will not get you were you want to go. You can leave the aneros in while you finish but leave it to the end of your session….edging with the aneros in gives you a sneak peak at what the super O can be like. Relaxation is the key while moving the toy with kegels provides the slow stimulation needed to reach a super O.
DO NOT AVOID YOUR PENIS. Should you avoid your penis, you run run the risk of ED. The penis and prostate must function as one.
Last night I had a really good session, and to wind down I thought I’d read some erotic comics and play with my dick (with the aneros still in). From the start, I explicitly decided to avoid ejaculating at the end.
As I was stroking, I stayed with my normal aneros protocol: don’t squeeze my abs, don’t contract the pelvic floor purposely, when in doubt check that I’m 100% relaxed and maybe do a soft reverse kegel, focus on sensations in the anus and prostate area. I ended up stroking for 30 minutes without any overbearing penis / ejaculation focused sensations. In fact, the excitement and sensations from that path fed straight into my prostate-focused excitement, just like a session without stroking.
Overall it was excellent and I’d recommend trying it as you wind down sometime, and then take that experience into your couple play. I did have a long aneros session before this that basically milked me dry of fluid from the gland. I’ve read that fluid build up in the prostate is one of the signals that causes ejaculation; that maybe be one reason I was so successful in staying prostate focused.
Basically go for it, but keep your focus on relaxation + observing the little tickles in your prostrate. Let us know how it goes!