I have been practicing my aneros use for about a year now, and I usually experience a lot of pleasure each session. However, I am still unsure if I’ve actually experienced a prostate orgasm yet. At my most pleasurable moments I feel like I just want to cry out of frustration because it feels so good and I feel like I’m so close to SOMETHING, but I don’t know what, and I’m craving some sense of release. During these times I usually experience some precum leakage as well, and my penis will get so hard that it actually hurts. The pleasure build-up is very slow, but I don’t feel like I’m crossing some kind of “point of no return”, like with traditional masturbation. And if I lose concentration all the pleasure dissapear. Thus, I’m wondering if what I have experienced is actually an orgasm or if I’ve not yet pushed myself over the edge. Do you feel like there is a clear boundary between the orgasmic/non-orgasmic state? Or can you feel when you are about to orgasm?
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As someone who has overcome this obstacle in recent memory, I have a few suggestions:
Not every orgasm is an intense hard one. Like with traditional masturbation, not every cumshot is going to be so forceful that it shoots over your head. My prostate orgasms start small, just very relaxed build up to a subtle release. Gives me a grin on my face. My prostate tends to spasm.
And just let those roll into the next orgasm, over and over. For me, they become more intense as they begin to roll into one another at greater frequency. I don’t have an intense one without have many smaller ones roll into each other leading up to it. And the trick to getting that rolling succession going is to stay relaxed. Just appreciate the grins, and keep yourself in enough check that you don’t lose all control pelvic muscle configuration that is getting you there. It’s very hard to be able to feel an orgasm but maintain what you were doing to get there. It’s different from traditional masturbation, in which when cum you don’t normally keep that same stroke going to reach another one.
Another thing is that I think you’re describing what I think is over-stimulation. Like you went past the little orgasms and didn’t recognize them, and are just putting too much on your prostate without resetting yourself little bit. It’s like your penis head being too sensitive to touch after you cum. Similar situation. I think you’d benefit from backing off on the strength of your hold a little bit. The way I think of it to myself is to “keep that squish” going. I keep my strength at a level where I can always feel my prostate squish in with a movement, but also squish out as the movement lets up. If I have it on so strong that I can’t feel it let up, I consciously dial down my muscle configuration a touch until I can feel it go on and back off. And that gets me building up again to the next orgasm. At some point the frequency of the orgasms is basically just constant, just gotta keep that squish going. I think it could be the difference between that sensation leaving you frustrated, and making you satisfied.
I hope this helps you. I’m only half a year further into my journey than you are so take my advice with a grain of salt.
This is great advice! I’m in the same place, I get waves of pleasure that feel so close to me exploding but never quite gets there, and usually my reaction is to increase the stimulation. I will consciously try to just keep it at the same level and see what happens. Thank you!