Last night my wife and I talked – I reminded her we last made love in March and here it is late October. She reminded me of her perimenopause into menopause phase that she has been stuck in for the last 5 or 6 years, and that it could last another five years, maybe more. She said to be honest she has no interest in sex other than private masturbation. I told her from my perspective the connection was the most part, and she agreed. So I made her an offer. We abandon sex altogether indefinitely in exchange for kissing and cuddling. She is allowed to masturbate her labia and clit in private but no vaginal or anal penetration with toys, fingers, objects. I am allowed to use my prostate toys in my rectum in private but no touching or rubbing of my penis or scrotum for arousal purposes. If I want to acquire a chastity device she will supervise the installation and hold the key, but it would need to be something wearable 24/7 as she does not want to be involved taking it off and putting it back on me. We discussed me seeing my doctor to review the cholesterol and blood pressure medications she had previously suggested as erectile dysfunction would be ideal for us.