Question: Just bought my first aneros.

Good luck with your new toy. I commented on a post on r/prostateplay about a month ago with a list of tips I’ve found helpful. It answered many of your questions, so I copied and edited it to try to answer your others. Sorry for the length of this, but you asked a lot of questions 🙂

First, not everyone can get to a hands-free orgasm (if that’s what you’re expecting). Especially if you’re trying to do so, haha. But most guys using an Aneros can achieve dry p-spot orgasms — or at least a “Super-T” (stroking with the toy in at the end of a session), which still feels way better than regular masturbation.

Second, your fear of “messing up your first experience” may well work against you if it increases your expectations. Like a lot of sex, the first time is not usually the best experience. Aneros toys in particular take some patience and practice… but are well worth the effort if you can let your body and mind learn to enjoy the sensations. I also believe it can increase performance, ejaculation intensity/volume, and stamina in bed, and prostate health in general. So I hope you will make time to use it more often than “very rarely”, or you may not get the full experience (at least until you can “practice” more often).

Even after 12 years of “practice”, a HFO only happens for me about once per 3-4 sessions or so. Sessions take at least an hour, or two if it’s feeling good and I have the time. It takes longer with an Aneros vs. some other prostate toys, because the sensations are more subtle. But when you do start to feel those sensations, they can be very intense.

When I have had HFOs (or very intense “Super T” orgasms), these are things I’ve noticed help me:

1. Be clean or better yet cleaned out down there. Very important. The toy has to be able to move inside you, unimpeded, for it to work best, without any discomfort. If possible, get a hot shower after cleaning (or bath if you prefer). That helps you relax and you’ll also feel cleaner down there.
2. Be relaxed, in a positive mood, and take your time. Breathing deeply and slowly, especially after just laying down, before insertion and shortly after, can help you relax as well. I sometimes use a couple of puffs of a certain substance that helps (now legal in some states/countries). I know that’s not for everyone (I don’t use it very much or very often myself). But it significantly increases the chances for HFO. You could also try a glass of wine or equivalent… but more alcohol or using other drugs could definitely interfere with your ability to enjoy your session.
3. Use a good lube. A combo lube (e.g. coconut oil+water based), doesn’t dry out in longer sessions, and increases the movement, that’s so important. Also, perhaps try a light coating of vaseline on the toy before your main water-based or combo lube. That works great and has never damaged any of my toys. Do not use any silicone-based lube on silicone toys like the Aneros Syn’s.
4. Be in a quiet room, dim lights, in a comfortable position. I prefer being on a bed laying on my back with my legs pulled up, laying on a towel to keep things clean. You may prefer a different position for insertion (such as on your side) if it’s easier.
5. Be aroused… be horny going in, then use some erotic stimuli (online erotic stories, porn, or just fantasies). I also tease my dick some til I get hard. Not stroking, just teasing, especially before and shortly after insertion, until I feel the prostate sensations really start feeling good. Then I cut back on attention to my dick (at least until the end, if I want to finish with a wet orgasm). You can try edging a while before you start a session, but once you insert the toy, try to (mostly) focus on the feelings from your prostate.
6. After insertion, use gradual contractions of the anus. Start with none — just letting your body get used to the toy for at least 5-10 minutes after insertion, while breathing deeply and/or getting aroused. Then, start with weak contractions (like pulling the toy half way in)… hold it, repeat. Then start holding it longer, eventually as long as you can… but weak pressure, pulled like halfway in. You muscles should start twitching, causing the toy to kind of vibrate inside you. Then, mix stronger contractions with weaker ones, eventually using more strong contractions and holding them. By then (30-45 min in), you should definitely be feeling it.
7. Find the right toy. If you’re not feeling one, try another; even sometimes going back. I’ve had HFOs with Aneros MGX, Eupho, and Vice, as well as the njoy wand. I prefer the Trident plastic ones, because they move more than Syns (black silicone coating). The Progasm feels good too, but is larger, and doesn’t move as much; it usually ambushes me with a sudden, intense wet ejaculation. Helix works for a lot of guys but not so well for me. YMMV.
8. Focus on the sensations and erotic thoughts or fantasies (with or without external stimuli such as stories or porn). Your mind is your most important sexual organ. If it’s distracted, pre-occupied, or rushed, you won’t get there.
9. You may find that abstaining from ejaculation for a day or two ahead helps (depending on your age — guys over 40 or 50 may take longer). The main thing is to be in the right mood and not expecting too much. Extended abstinence is not necessary. In fact, IMO, longer periods of abstinence can be counter-productive because they increase your expectations (“I’ve waited all this time…”).
10. Try to completely let go of anticipation and expectations, those are your enemies. Just let it happen. If you don’t seem to be getting to a HFO, and you’re ready to wrap up, you can finish yourself off by stroking with the toy in for (hopefully) an intense “combo” climax and big ejaculation. Damn!

Those are the things that work for me; YMMV. Mix and match til you find what works for you. Different people find that different things work better for them. I hope this helps. Good luck!

2 comments

Jond357 says:

January 7, 2020 at 22:40

Good luck with your new toy. I commented on a post on r/prostateplay about a month ago with a list of tips I’ve found helpful. It answered many of your questions, so I copied and edited it to try to answer your others. Sorry for the length of this, but you asked a lot of questions 🙂

First, not everyone can get to a hands-free orgasm (if that’s what you’re expecting). Especially if you’re trying to do so, haha. But most guys using an Aneros can achieve dry p-spot orgasms — or at least a “Super-T” (stroking with the toy in at the end of a session), which still feels way better than regular masturbation.

Second, your fear of “messing up your first experience” may well work against you if it increases your expectations. Like a lot of sex, the first time is not usually the best experience. Aneros toys in particular take some patience and practice… but are well worth the effort if you can let your body and mind learn to enjoy the sensations. I also believe it can increase performance, ejaculation intensity/volume, and stamina in bed, and prostate health in general. So I hope you will make time to use it more often than “very rarely”, or you may not get the full experience (at least until you can “practice” more often).

Even after 12 years of “practice”, a HFO only happens for me about once per 3-4 sessions or so. Sessions take at least an hour, or two if it’s feeling good and I have the time. It takes longer with an Aneros vs. some other prostate toys, because the sensations are more subtle. But when you do start to feel those sensations, they can be very intense.

When I have had HFOs (or very intense “Super T” orgasms), these are things I’ve noticed help me:

1. Be clean or better yet cleaned out down there. Very important. The toy has to be able to move inside you, unimpeded, for it to work best, without any discomfort. If possible, get a hot shower after cleaning (or bath if you prefer). That helps you relax and you’ll also feel cleaner down there.
2. Be relaxed, in a positive mood, and take your time. Breathing deeply and slowly, especially after just laying down, before insertion and shortly after, can help you relax as well. I sometimes use a couple of puffs of a certain substance that helps (now legal in some states/countries). I know that’s not for everyone (I don’t use it very much or very often myself). But it significantly increases the chances for HFO. You could also try a glass of wine or equivalent… but more alcohol or using other drugs could definitely interfere with your ability to enjoy your session.
3. Use a good lube. A combo lube (e.g. coconut oil+water based), doesn’t dry out in longer sessions, and increases the movement, that’s so important. Also, perhaps try a light coating of vaseline on the toy before your main water-based or combo lube. That works great and has never damaged any of my toys. Do not use any silicone-based lube on silicone toys like the Aneros Syn’s.
4. Be in a quiet room, dim lights, in a comfortable position. I prefer being on a bed laying on my back with my legs pulled up, laying on a towel to keep things clean. You may prefer a different position for insertion (such as on your side) if it’s easier.
5. Be aroused… be horny going in, then use some erotic stimuli (online erotic stories, porn, or just fantasies). I also tease my dick some til I get hard. Not stroking, just teasing, especially before and shortly after insertion, until I feel the prostate sensations really start feeling good. Then I cut back on attention to my dick (at least until the end, if I want to finish with a wet orgasm). You can try edging a while before you start a session, but once you insert the toy, try to (mostly) focus on the feelings from your prostate.
6. After insertion, use gradual contractions of the anus. Start with none — just letting your body get used to the toy for at least 5-10 minutes after insertion, while breathing deeply and/or getting aroused. Then, start with weak contractions (like pulling the toy half way in)… hold it, repeat. Then start holding it longer, eventually as long as you can… but weak pressure, pulled like halfway in. You muscles should start twitching, causing the toy to kind of vibrate inside you. Then, mix stronger contractions with weaker ones, eventually using more strong contractions and holding them. By then (30-45 min in), you should definitely be feeling it.
7. Find the right toy. If you’re not feeling one, try another; even sometimes going back. I’ve had HFOs with Aneros MGX, Eupho, and Vice, as well as the njoy wand. I prefer the Trident plastic ones, because they move more than Syns (black silicone coating). The Progasm feels good too, but is larger, and doesn’t move as much; it usually ambushes me with a sudden, intense wet ejaculation. Helix works for a lot of guys but not so well for me. YMMV.
8. Focus on the sensations and erotic thoughts or fantasies (with or without external stimuli such as stories or porn). Your mind is your most important sexual organ. If it’s distracted, pre-occupied, or rushed, you won’t get there.
9. You may find that abstaining from ejaculation for a day or two ahead helps (depending on your age — guys over 40 or 50 may take longer). The main thing is to be in the right mood and not expecting too much. Extended abstinence is not necessary. In fact, IMO, longer periods of abstinence can be counter-productive because they increase your expectations (“I’ve waited all this time…”).
10. Try to completely let go of anticipation and expectations, those are your enemies. Just let it happen. If you don’t seem to be getting to a HFO, and you’re ready to wrap up, you can finish yourself off by stroking with the toy in for (hopefully) an intense “combo” climax and big ejaculation. Damn!

Those are the things that work for me; YMMV. Mix and match til you find what works for you. Different people find that different things work better for them. I hope this helps. Good luck!
JuniorMidnight says:

January 8, 2020 at 17:22

There are no rules, only guides. Experiment. Don’t get too hung up on the “proper” way to do things. The only real rule is don’t move the toy with your hands.

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