just wondering how long it will take for me to feel anything? i have the aneros helix trident, a curved dildo, a njay pure wand and a vibrator been going at it for 8 months and its hard to feel anything. i tried waiting between weeks and between days but its hard to feel any sense of pleasure… are there any techniques where i can make my prostate more sensitive or something? its been pretty long and hard because i read a lot about it and tried when i was really turned on and read it takes time by someone but does it really take that long?
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Does things in your butt feel good in general? Smoke some weed if that’s your thing. I always find it makes the whole area 5x more sensitive
Do you do kegal exercises?
Maybe you have COVID-19
Try fiddling your nipples
It took me a few sessions to actually notice things, could also be that the toy isn’t actually hitting your prostate and it isn’t getting stimulated. Worst case scenario I’ve heard when nothing happens it’s a sign of prostate cancer, you’re young though so that’s highly unlikely.
I’m going to start by saying that you are not the only one, so don’t feel as though anything is wrong with you. Orgasming from prostate stimulation is not common and it can be difficult to achieve. It is literally the male equivalent of women trying to achieve vaginal orgasms. Some can do it really easily others struggle but it doesn’t necessarily mean that only a lucky few can achieve it.
Top tips:
– Relax and remember to keep breathing deeply throughout
– Do kegel exercises regularly and contract those muscles whilst using your toys
– You have to really want and enjoy prostate stimulation to achieve an orgasm. The prostate is not an orgasm button that you press against with a toy
– Curves are king. Toys (and penises) that are curved will always hit the spot. It sounds like you are on the right tracks with your toy choices so you may have to check to make sure you are hitting the right spot. You will normally get a pleasurable tingling sensation or the urge to pee if you are hitting the right spot (don’t stop stimulating it once you find it!). For that reason you should always pee before a session to make sure.
– Lay a towel down whenever you are attempting it because if you end up ejaculating handsfree things can get surprisingly messy. I rarely shoot when I ejaculate and I don’t normally produce much but the first time I achieved it I wasn’t expecting it and I completely soaked myself to the point I had to just take a shower. If you experience this orgasm you will have a build up similar to when you have a penile orgasm. Another thing is that you may not ejaculate at all once you climax and you may have a dry orgasm. The build up for this is different. You will normally feel sensations of warmth and tingling across your whole body and once you climax you will normally feel orgasmic waves radiating throughout your body. If you have a dry orgasm you can keep having as many as you want until you can’t take anymore.
Remember that 95% of achieving a prostate orgasm is mental. You have to be relaxed and highly aroused to achieve it. The level of arousal you need is much greater than than the threshold for achieving a penile orgasm. This is where a lot of people fail as they cannot get themselves deeply aroused and in a mental headspace where they are just focusing on the pleasurable sensations and nothing else. Meditation and yoga can help with getting yourself into the right headspace and clearing your mind but getting yourself deeply aroused is a personal thing and is something that you need to explore yourself.
One thing I would say is that you are very young. I’m quite surprised that you have such an extensive sex toy collection at your age (expensive sex toys too!). Please don’t take this the wrong way but I think you should focus on spending your time and money on other things and not get too focused on this. You will achieve a prostate orgasm eventually. You have so many years to try. My first prostate orgasm resulted from somebody else stimulating my prostate so you may find that you achieve it with someone else.
At your age your hormones are probably still all over the place and prostate orgasm does take some control over your arousal to achieve so I think in that sense you could be a bit young to achieve it, but that’s not to say it’s not possible.
I only feel something when really aroused, I haven’t ejaculated solely from anal play but I can say I ejaculated a lot harder from play.