I am brand new to the Aneros or anal play. My not very frequent partner has been using it and was very excited to incorporate it into sex the other night.
Later in the night, we used the Aneros in and out, but I started to go faster because he was getting close, and he came. He has seemed a bit weirded out and I worry that I might have gone too far, or too fast.
I’m still waiting to talk to him, but just wondering if anyone here has used the Aneros in a faster massage motion? Or is that a complete misuse ? Thanks
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/jst0gb/can_the_massage_be_too_fast/
I’d say it’s mostly personal preference as different people may or may not like different paces/speeds/pressures. Can definitely say that it can be “too fast” and “too rough” in my case: i just prefer slow and sensual massages where i can relax. Speeding up from time to time is okay but i can not stand hammering away, it’s almost painful if too fast.
You should really just talk to your partner and find out together what is liked or disliked. Keep in mind, it’s a dynamic that can change, even during the session. Communication is key! Good luck 🍀