Am I just unable to enjoy this?

I’ve been reading on Reddit for over a year about people having p-waves, prostate orgasms, dry orgasms, wet orgasms.

It’s really frustrating for me, because try as I might, I’m not getting ANY pleasure from my prostate!

I’ve learned to flex and control my pc and sphincter muscles. I’m working really hard at staying relaxed and calm. I can even get what I think are involuntary contractions and start to shake… BUT NONE OF IT FEELS GOOD!

I’ve read so many people say “don’t worry about chasing orgasms, just enjoy the sensations and one day orgasms will come.”

But I’m not even getting enjoyable sensations!!! I’ve tried aneros, dildos, and multiple vibrators, and still no pleasure.

Is there something wrong with my prostate? I don’t mind working a long time before something huge happens, but I’m getting so discouraged and frustrated reading about everyone else at least being able to enjoy the wait while I feel nothing!!!

Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/kr91zr/am_i_just_unable_to_enjoy_this/

25 comments

  1. It took me 3 years. I finally got my first with a vibrating dildo. I need more agressive in/out. Once I got one it became easier. My first time I thought I was going to pee everyqher but thought what the hell I will clean it up. Then it happened.

    Not really adivce, but thought I would share my long journey.

    Aneros still does nothing for me.

  2. It took me 6 months or so of almost daily use to feel something. And then, probably another year or two before I felt something each & every time I put one in. Now, I put one in and am in heaven within seconds. I smoke weed which helped me a lot I think.

  3. You mention that you have learned how to flex and control relevant muscles, but have you also had sessions where you go through different levels of how strongly you contract? For example, one session where you do the contractions at 90% strength for say 20mins-30mins. Then whenever you go next, one at 80-85%. And then you work your way down from the top so to speak.

    The way it happened for me was that I managed to do the rolling/wave contractions (sphincter, pc, sphincter, pc, etc.) in one motion repeatedly, but the strength of the contractions applied was too much. Also too quick. So what I did was that I lowered the speed a little and the strength, little by little, but allowing enough time on each decrease, to see if something would happen. If you just lower strength of contractions too quickly, you’re not giving each “setting” enough time to see if it’s what’s right for you.

    The way it felt before I got my first p-wave was basically that the rolling motion “fused” into one sensation, and it started feeling different somehow, and then suddenly from this the p-wave arose and filled my body.

    You could add meditation to your daily regimen and see if it helps. Also something that helps is even faking the mood. Feel like what you’re doing is sensual and sexual, caress your body (not your dick), and after a bit when you feel like you’ve found a right spot for the contractions, keep your focus in a relaxed way on the contractions and how that feels. Then add slow strokes on your nipples. Wear a thin cotton t-shirt or similar as it makes it feel better. The nerves of the nipples share the same neural pathways as the prostate, and in a sense you’re indirectly stimulating your prostate by doing that, so it can be useful.

  23. I can’t really add much than what you probably already read, but, I’ll just say, never give up. Even when it seems like nothing, that little progress, is still something, and for real, it just keeps getting better, even if takes longer for some.

  24. I think you are putting too much expectation and pressure on yourself. I only *really* get intense pleasure is if I’m really horny and my prostate is super swollen.

  25. I don’t think I’m of ‘high prostate sensitivity’ as some guys are who have orgasms within the first few uses, I think I’m relatively average but I did have pleasant sensations from the first try. That said, edging traditionally before putting the toy in reallyyyy ramped things up for me. I strongly suggest trying edging, then putting the toy in and going hands free. I’ve been advised that to encourage rewiring, if you want a traditional orgasm at the end, take the toy out then finish in order to not interfere with the ‘rewiring’ process.

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