A POV from a beginner

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1. Hey there –

   Are you flexing any of your muscles when it is in? Laying on your back or side? How long are you giving these sessions?

   I too am at the beginning of my aneros journey, but after a couple sessions, I am definitely getting more familiar with the sensations, which are super subtle, btw. If I’ve learned anything, you cannot be in a rush when you’re doing this and you really need to be relaxed. I think that is true regardless of what your technique may or may not be.

   I wish you the best of luck, but just thought I’d send a quick note to say, you’re definitely not the only one not yet at the party, but it seems like it’s something worth continuing to work on (at least from my perspective).

2. Try doing the first couple lessons of Mindgasm (Mindgasm.net). The creator laid things out pretty nicely and it’s easy to follow. That should help get you pointed in the right direction.

3. Yeah, that’s the frustrating part. So many methods and not a one size fits all. Some methods work amazingly for some, others it’s a total dud.

   You pretty much answered your own question and know the ins and outs. A suggestion that you may not have thought of though is: try different aneros models, that’s another big variable. More money yes, your call.

4. It really just takes time. I didn’t feel much except a better traditional orgasm with the toy in when I got fed up trying to hit my prostate during my sessions. I’ve been doing it for 6 months on and off and now I can find my prostate with the toy and let it gently rub against the right spot. I’m only at the stage of getting pleasureable waves radiating from that spot and it’s really pretty good but that’s my limited progress. It’s really not about only training the muscles it’s about learning your anatomy down there with the toy inserted.

   All I can say is it’s about patience. I thought it was the toy (Helix for me as well) that wasn’t hitting the spot or something was wrong with me as well. But apparently that wasn’t the case.

5. I definitely get your frustration, but you guessed it already: it’s practice. Don’t get hung up by not progressing, in fact – all sessions make you progress if you believe it or not. Imagine starting a new language, it’s super frustrating in the beginning and you probably won’t be able to have an actual conversation or the skill of watching a tv show. But as you move on you’ll start to notice certain words, it’s the same with aneros. Become familiar with your body. Don’t overthink certain techniques that people recommend, just be and stop using your intellectual mind to “judge” progress. The ego can be quite harsh when it comes to failure. You won’t gain anything by frustrating yourself or thinking about sensations, in fact by doing that you will just miss the sensations that are available. Don’t compare your progress (quote: everyone is having so much fun) …. by doing that you just affirmed your failing. You literally manifest that you are for some reason inadequate of perceiving pleasure. The law of attraction at it’s finest. Most people have loads of trouble getting to a pleasant experience just because they constantly chase pleasure. Keep in mind: this is not jerking of: you have to relearn or rewire what’s lost during the transition from being a child and an adult. Experiment with your body, touch your nipples, remember this is “you time” so make it count. Also three times per 2 weeks isn’t really a whole lot. There is no step by step guide for a good reason (actually there are loads of step by step guides) but yeah they don’t work for everybody. Guess what: they actually do but you are too new to fully understand the importance of certain concepts. For example relaxation does not mean: lay down. There is a lot more to it, become the observer of thoughts instead of jumping onto every little thought there is and finishing x thought. Eventually these become less frequent and you enter a altered state of consciousness that is required to perceive the tiny sensations that aneros provides to you. This whole aneros thing is 100% mind-based, that’s why people have anerosless sessions that blow their socks off. Read into meditation and learn that skill consistently, it’ll be useful for so many things too (not just aneros).

   And yes there is a lot of info that can be intimidating and frightening, especially if they contradict each other. Some say “use your muscles” some say “relax everything” now what do we believe? Both can certainly work, just try it out. Remember this is your personal journey and i don’t wanna sound mean but you have to invest time and experiment with different things until you get somewhere. Don’t hang yourself up just because one “guru” says that X is the way or Y is the way. If it was that easy, don’t you think there would be more success-stories?

6. I am four months in and definitely getting somewhere now but it takes time. Patience and consistency is key, just as if you we’re building muscle.

   I recommend meditation if you aren’t doing it already and include things like body scans where you try to feel every part of your body.

   My best sessions tend to be when I am already horny/aroused

   Try just reading a book on your bed whilst it’s in and just relaxing and forgetting about it. Maybe even try reading something erotic…

   I’ve only recently been sure that my prostate is doing anything at all and I’m fairly in tune with my body so it definitely takes time!

7. Make sure the p tab is getting you very important

8. Keep on using it and try different things. And smoke some weed before or during, its golden

9. Don’t give up. It took me years but so worth the wait. I can see you some tips if you pm me

10. I can relate. I only feel anything against my prostate when I sit on the aneros. Its like my prostate is deeper than the device can reach. And sitting on it is not comfortable or a position to relax into the sensations.

    I’ve got 3 models, and all are the same.

11. Tallanerosuser video

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