History: I bought 2 aneros toys. the white sgx and the progasm jr. I’ve had it for a couple weeks now.
My problem? I don’t get anything NEAR the feelings that some people here are getting. I’ve tried laying down on my back, on my side, sitting in a chair, everything short of upside down. I think my kegels are in the best shape ever. >>> I get nothing. I don’t feel a THING. ZERO.
So people here have been saying “oh it takes lots of time”. but then I read this from another poster here:
“I got the new Progasm Ice 3 days ago. Incredible feelings from that toy. Tried it out with my wife last night. I was literally in heaven. Every feeling was enlightening like 10 fold.”
A guy on the aneros forum writes; ” A big surprise during my first time ever”
I’m sitting here thinking WHAT ???
When I use it? I don’t feel anything at all. nothing. And those bead things sticking into me don’t feel good. After awhile with the sgx in there? my perianal area feels sore.
When I use the Progasm jr- it won’t stay in my ass. No matter what I do, unless I sit down? it comes out quickly. So that means I’m limited to the sgx which is smaller.
Am I supposed to feel that “pee urge” feeling? IS this thing even contacting my prostate?
I feel I just WASTED $120 on two useless toys. I read through some of the aneros website blogs. The learning center has no info in it at all. I lay down and squeeze and squeeze.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/nxfffg/i_still_dont_get_this/
I can appreciate the frustration. It can take a while to get into the groove. Not the same journey for everyone. I have been using aneros for over a decade. These three videos I came across lately help put you in the right mindset and articulate how to focus on what to contract.
Good luck. Remember to just focus on what subtle pleasure is there and to let it grow. Have a good weekend.
https://youtu.be/9pSzsx3NwIs
More =/= better
You can touch your dick and the more you so the closer you get to climax.
As far as I’m aware, prostate play isn’t anything like that and trying to force it isn’t going to work.
I understand the frustration although I’m somewhere in between. I had pleasant feelings from the start which really enlightened me as I didn’t know I could have genuine sexual pleasure like that, but the sensations weren’t mind blowing.
Fast forward nearly a year and I’ve had a few great sessions and breakthroughs, but no Os. Equally I’ve had some really nice pleasure at times, but it can be frustrating as I just don’t get how to make it escalate to another level. Sometimes I’ve felt like I’m on the verge of unlocking something huge, other times I’ve been questioning whether there’s anything more to p play than just some interesting pleasure. But I know there is because of the fact it can make my penis so much more sensitive and I also just about tipped into p gasm land once.
My advice if you aren’t really feeling any pleasure – one, try abstaining for a few days, and two, try edging first. So before you put the toy in, bring yourself quite close to the edge where you could decide to ejaculate, but come back down. Do this several times and while you’re still very horny, put the toy in and go hands free. This should make the pleasure from your prostate more obvious.
When I started doing this, it really ramped up the pleasure and now I no longer start by edging first because I’ve kind of landed on another plateau where I don’t need to edge first as a crutch. I think that’s positive because I don’t think starting off in a penile-centric way will help achieve a pgasm, but it will get the wheels in motion to help you identify pleasure. You’re gonna have to wipe the slate clean and come at this from a new angle with more patience.
Also, if you’re impatient, you’re more likely to squeeze hard and the hard squeezes are what ironically kills the sensitivity. You need to let your body contract when it wants to, but fight the urge to clamp down. You’ll start to tease the pleasure out of your prostate and it may take an hour or more until it starts to feel quite nice. Don’t kill all your good work with hard clenches before you get there.
Finally, do whatever you need to do to keep up arousal high after you put the toy in. I personally don’t think it’s bad to have porn on, just don’t let that take all your attention away from the subtle feelings your prostate gives you. If things start to feel nice, you can close your eyes and just listen to the porn and focus on your prostate. In the end, how good it feels can become arousing in itself.
Sorry for the long post, but I hope at least some of this advice can help you out.
First of all: I’m sorry in advance BUT They are 100% correct with their response. With anger and frustration as your or the other guys fuel, you won’t get anywhere. The truth can be quite hurtful sometimes but again, this entire process is 99% mindset and maybe 1% technique. So what separates the successful from the not so successful is: relaxation, not forcing yourself, just being in the moment and enjoying the sensations. Keep in mind, the sensations are responsible for an orgasm. So skipping them is a bad thing to do. If you want a quick orgasm: jerk. You learned that as a kid. Prostate orgasms are different, so stop making assumptions on how it’s suppose to work. Like going aggressively on your p-spot just cuz you learned that excessive rubbing of the penis results in orgasm. That is NOT correct. You need a passive mindset, the active mindset is not helpful.
I am sure you’ll think: “hey but i am relaxed” – no you are not, your post, your disbelief, your eagerness to experience it, your frustration all subtract from your relaxation. This whole super-o thing is actually so darn easy if people would finally understand that THEY (their egos) are the only thing that holds em back. Not more not less. Spending more and more money on toys, reading guides etc all day, all this is not required. Stop overthinking, drop your disbeliefs, you are really just manifesting your own failure. Again: the only thing one needs to do is enjoy the tiniest of sensation without being immediately frustrated upon insertion. And with all things in life that you do multiple times, with each repetition you eventually become better.
So I was in the same boat as you. It’s like you see all these amazing stories and have the expectation and then you’re like wtf are these guys just making this up?? I have been using my aneros off and on for a couple of years and it wasn’t until recently that I finally understood what the hell was going on. It’s like 90% mental. It almost feels like I am making it up sometimes. Like willing my prostate into the feeling of pleasure. It does take a lot of work and focus to get there . The thing that worked for me has been Mindgasm.Net . I needed those focused guided sessions to help me wrap my brain around this thing. It’s like when you get really good at something . So good that it becomes second nature and you don’t pay attention to the details or consciously trying to make it happen. It just becomes a feeling at some point and like an extension of your body. Like playing video games or sports. You get so focused on what you want that you totally forget about making your legs pump or your fingers move and hit certain buttons. In the case of your prostate you’re so lost in the beginning and don’t realize how lost you are. No one came teach you no matter how bad they want to. You gotta keep trying techniques and excersizes and meditation type things and literally just doing nothing with a toy in . Eventually something is going to spark for you in your own way and it won’t be the super O or perfect or anything like that at first . It will just be a realization like holy shit that was not what I was expecting but i actually am getting this figured out. Then you’ll be disappointed because you start chasing it . Then you’ll be disappointed again. And again. But eventually you start realizing the smallest amounts of pleasure in different ways than you were thinking you would. Then over time those build up and get better . Sometimes your body might not work with you at all no matter how much you want to try. It truly is a journey. I have not had a Super O, but I did catch my spark and I’m holding on for dear life. Mindgasm really helped me through. Might be worth it for you too. I think for some people things like this are easy because of their current kind state, but I am perpetually stressed out and anxious about stuff so it takes A lot for me to relax . That’s probably why I need something like mindgasm or binaural beats or meditation music. Either way . Hope the best for you.
Question:
– Have you spent any significant time reading through the Aneros Wiki, and familiarizing yourself with how this in general should be done?
Because it’s not a mere mechanical procedure. You should not be clenching hard. “Hard” ruins things. It’s about exceptionally subtle, soft, gentle contractions, and it takes time finding the right rhythm, and so on, and relaxing into this.
Even if you feel nothing, that’s where you have to start. And mindset is everything, in addition to what I said above.
Actually, you can get full body orgasms without any toy whatsoever, either through the same exercises recommended for the Aneros, just without, or through nipple stimulation (but that takes even more patience and especially a right mindset, which without nothing will happen.)