Explaining Aless to Partner?

So, I recently let my wife in on my ability to have multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms by meditating, muscle flexing, etc. We here call them Aless or w/o toy.

She would most likely not be comfortable or open to talking about the toy just yet and honestly I have better success w/o. I think for me the toy just helped me become aware/re-wire. I CANNOT find any research or articles online to describe the Aless process of prostate O’s.

My wife is in the medical field and a “lifetime learner” so a coherent article that describes the process/science behind it would be great!

There seems to be 2 types of articles/literature…using a prostate toy OR kegel exercises/NEO’S (non-ejaculatory orgasms) through penis stimulation (edging).

My Aless process involves no toy, no fingers, and no penile stimulation and has led to insane pleasure that I would love to be able to explain to my significant other.

Any help or links that aren’t all about prostate milking/toys would be greatly appreciated.

Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/o9uzb6/explaining_aless_to_partner/


  1. If she has a toy herself, then it would be hypocritical with her disapproving of yours. Hope she’s open to it.

  2. Use the Aneros leaning center on their site. Aless orgasms are common once you become rewired. Prostate orgasms are the way to go.

  3. This is the only paper I know of that touches this subject (it does reference the Aneros): https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/ca.23006

    Other than that, good luck finding scientific/medical papers on it. I have yet to find any other than the above one. It seems to be a virtually unknown phenomena.

    I once talked to my doctor about it, primarily because I wanted to know if the sometimes *very* fast heart rate I experience with these orgasms, are possibly dangerous. So of course I explained how it happened and that they were related to these dry orgasms I’ve been having. She found it interesting and basically told me that it wasn’t anything to be afraid of, at least as long as I don’t have a heart condition. When I asked if she knew anything about this in general she said she had never heard of it before. But said something like how there’s a lot we still don’t know about the body, and that I should just enjoy what I’m experiencing without worrying.

    I read a popular magazine article online about male nipple orgasms, and it mentioned the huge concentration of nerves in the nipples, and how they were using the same neural pathways as the genitals and the prostate are using, towards the pleasure center of the brain. So in the case where I have nipple orgasms, while they’re 100% nipple-only, I can still feel that my prostate is part of this, unlike traditional masturbation or sex where the penis is the primary factor.

    Really wish there were studies on this.

  4. Some things can’t really be explained with science (yet). I mean explain consciousness. That’s gonna be a tough one for sure. So something that is based on something we don’t even remotely understand would be even more difficult in my opinion.

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