Hi there, so first of all, this is not one of those posts which tells you of a certain technique. My advice is general. I believe it is more effective and would work for majority of struggling users here. It is a simple one, but not easy.
Let me preface by describing my journey. I’ve been using aneros for 2 years and few month now. But only very recently I managed to git my first super O’s. And they have been worthy. Only very recently I’ve realized what has been hindering me.
So first of all, let’s think about what an aneros session is? The way I see it, it is an intimate session with yourself, with your mind. The toy is just a tool to bring awareness. The more awareness you have, the better.
What has been the biggest distractor for me and my progress? It’s porn. Watching porn (or even listening to it) during the session completely destroys any awareness or concentration, so it will never be able to help (unless you are already super rewired, maybe).
But the problem is porn itself. Even if you watch it before the session to get aroused, it takes your brain into an overdrive, which stays during the session. That means your own brain will probably be unable to create “free flow” of fantasies and mental images that actually lead to the super O. At least for me, when the brain starts streaming images of arousing things, my body and my mind seem to align in the same frequency, which starts the super O’s. I also think that porn makes you over-aroused which basically means you block yourself from non-penile orgasms. It’s like peeing with a boner. Very difficult. If you want to feel the flow, you need to be in a natural state.
Now the hardest part. If you are a hardcore/moderate porn user, your initial aneros sessions without any porn will feel like a drag. When I initially started dropping porn, I didn’t even feel the urge to have a session until a week or so. And it was quite bland. But in time it became so much more enjoyable. My body also became much more receptive. For example, during the session I started getting instincts to touch or caress myself in various places. So it’s sort of easier to listen to ques your body’s sending you.
And now some positive news. I still give in to porn sometimes, just less of it. Even the reduction of it may be enough to help you trigger super O’s or move closer to them. At least try not using it during aneros sessions. Although my plan is to stop it completely now.
I also think that semen retention might be quite beneficial with this method, but honestly, I’ve never been able to go longer than a week. So that is something to consider.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/oyzrnn/the_fastest_way_to_a_super_o_its_simple_i_promise/
Maybe this is where I’m going wrong, I always put something on to watch and havnt reached one yet
You are on point. And I’ll just have to agree on it, i made the same observations during my journey. Even the part where you had no interest in a session (after dropping it), my sessions were also very tame at first. But eventually the porn skipping pays off and it’ll be much better in the long run.
The thing with porn is… the equation is always: you+porn+aneros
Obviously that’s an additional variable that has to meet certain criteria and more importantly it distracts you from your own body, as focus wanders onto the screen instead of where it should be.
I know this will upset some users here, but this is one of the best parts of THC. For me, it makes me only able to focus on one thing at a time, but I’m hyper focused on it. In this case, I hyper focus on my prostate while porn is just a secondary thing in the background. I will often close my eyes and not even part attention to your porn. It also blocks other outside distractions.
However, I’m newer to the whole thing and haven’t had a super O yet. So take what I said with a grain of salt. I will say that I’ve had some intense orgasms and don’t even care about not having a super O which I think is another big hindrance people have.
Really good points OP.
If I want porn in a session it’ll be a still image slideshow. That probably won’t get looked at much if at all once the O’s kick off.
You are spot on, in that, meditation is key. Porn can interfere.
However, I think it’s also important to be aroused BEFORE you put the aneros in, so a little at first to get things going doesn’t hurt.
Or do what I do. Use a cock ring at first and just feel/enjoy the sensations from that, then transition into the aneros toy.
I have come to a similar conclusion that you need to listen to your body. It’s giving cues but you need to listen to them not anticipate or expect something. Be in the moment with your body. When I drift into a fantasy to try and finish I realize I’ve forgetten that this is really happening to me, not some fantasy me. So my success comes when I basically make love to myself. I think of how attentive you have to be to make your partner legitimately cum. You have to give yourself the same attention otherwise you’ll be unsatisfied like many partners experience when it’s just expected if I do “this” then you’ll cum cuz that’s what porn teaches.