I tried searching the community but i didn’t find anything.
So where am I now? I bought the helix syn and played with it, mostly while watching porn and doing mindgasms. I also do kegels during the day. I also do them at night just to feel the sensation. This is my 4th week playing. In my second week i had an evening where i had 2 nice glowing feelings in my bladder region that emanated further. At that point i felt my pelvic region clench. After that i had similar feelings but much lighter if i do not use the toy and just clench at 30%. Using the toy i now seem to lose any succes. Very weird. I also started using a douche before play and i use coconut oil as lube. Nipple play doesn’t seem to do anything but hearing porn does. What i also did was stop masturbating and that is quite nice to be honest. I just have sex with my wife and anal play the other times. The periods in between the sex are now more fun as i get hornier the longer it takes and that helps the anal play. And if the periods are shorter, we have more sex 😀 win win. Also never did anal things before this and I do not use cannabis, poppers etc etc. Just want to be able to do it without.
So what are my questions.
1) With the toy i try to contract my sphincter to move the toy or my pc muscles but i feel no real movement. I also feel that after 30 min the base of the toy doesn’t really glide anymore. So i’m wondering: When people say “I move the toy around” what does that mean ? Does it go left to right in out turn? I have no clue. And the fact i don’t really feel movement except it going in/out a bit because my sphincter goes in out. Does that mean i have a lube issue or that i just can’t feel the movement yet.
2) Do you move the toy or do you just keep the sphincter/pc contracted at 30%?
3) When people talk about the pc muscle and sphincter fighting how does that feel and how do you identify it.
4) How do you stop needing porn? If is use porn i have more sensations if i do not i seem to lose all feelings. And if i start looking at porn again, back are the feelings :D.
I think that is about it, thank you for any advise.Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/xs73qa/movement/